Rant: Getting catfished by guys!

boodie_1961 · 2020-03-15T23:30:35+00:00

Keyboard lions, real life sheep ...

Sneaky___ · 2020-03-15T23:46:45+00:00

It's just a lot easier to be confident online, and you have time to think before you hit send. I used to lowkey be one of those guys

Pickuupp · 2020-03-16T01:30:23+00:00

Welcome to the 21st century. Men who approach you IRL are way better because you know they're the real thing. Stop getting catfished by Instafakers.

excentrik-art · 2020-03-16T10:36:38+00:00

I understand this, and I was this man before. You need to understand that getting from sheep to lion takes time and effort. Keyboard is a comfort zone. Date is not.

Your beauty might be intimidating to some inexperienced guys. But it is all part of his transformation. He will learn it in time. Best for you and him is to be open about what you feel. Tell him how you feel, communicate.

chanceofgayfrogs · 2020-03-16T06:02:48+00:00

you should have phrased this as advice instead of a complaint/ rant

Xazax310 · 2020-03-16T12:23:19+00:00

I'm pretty much the reverse of this. I suck online texting/flirting at first interactions with a girl. I'd keep overthinking things, best lines to say, maybe a meme. I totally flopped on tinder.

I learned that At best I keep it very low-key, simple, and setup a date after she's obviously interested. Meeting them in person 1 on 1. Whole another ball-game for me.

A lot of what you say has to do with hiding their true-selves. Those guys you talk to(should say boys), flirt with, are there when you meet them in person. However they feel they cannot be themselves. I'm sure they are thinking stuff like "What if she doesn't like?", "I look terrible today", "Shes hot, I don't deserve her". Which leads to the very tame behavior you encounter.

Sorry, girl, that's most men today. Keep your search going. Maybe one day a man will cold-approach you lol.

bemore_ · 2020-03-16T16:08:50+00:00

I existed between the time when texting was cool and dating apps or social media weren't as dominant so I'm good at both. Men don't develop in person BECAUSE of the apps

Texting is actually low value. The cellphone itself is the playground of pretenders. Till you are too busy to text or spend time on social media you shouldn't, it's an attention thing.There's a quality of attention, a sensitivity to reality that is developed when you are offline else you just default to mindless habit in person and you're not responsive at all in person, so unable to create powerful experiences in reality

ambiguous_juice · 2020-03-16T21:01:54+00:00

As a guy I'm on the other side and this happens to me a lot. Most of my convos are bleh though and outside of sex I'm not interested in the vast majority of women I meet up with. Working on improving my flirt / seduction game though

ChrisTheGeek27 · 2020-03-16T23:48:23+00:00

Two things: it's because they're nervous (so stop judging so harshly)

Or

You're quite disappointing yourself in person.

mcdonaldprince · 2020-03-16T00:52:25+00:00

If you want to date Chodes or beta males look online. If you would like to date Alpha males be come a 10 first, we'll find our way into your life.

Title	Rant: Getting catfished by guys!
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	0
Comments	20
Date	March 15, 2020 8:57 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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