Reinventing myself

norwegiandoggo · 2025-06-02T10:11:25+00:00

You are behaving in a submissive manner to your friends. They are "above you" and that's how you treat them. And they treat you as if you're a clueless child below them.

Staying around friends who treat you like this destroys your sense of self worth and confidence over time. Get new friends, or begin to act differently around them.

Stop asking for advice about everything. Find a path on your own.

If you didn't get rejected - you don't need advice. You're asking about 10000 pieces of advice that are not related to a rejection. Only care about making moves and figuring out why you got rejected. And that's if there is a reason you can adress, which often there isn't.

Firm_Birthday_3364 · 2025-06-02T10:23:58+00:00

Get rid of them the advice they give is shit and they don’t seem nice people.

Imo you should get clear on what you like and get yourself as your priority for a while.

Start going to the gym (this will help you learning how to cook too since diet is an important part of getting in shape), look at your features and see if there is any actor/ musician that you look alike to get inspiration on some clothes and style you can try, indulge in your hobbies and give yourself some goals to work on on a daily basis.

Do this and your confidence will sky rocket.

If you are struggling with being too nice and giving your power away read “no more mr nice guy” by Robert glover (MUST READ) and “when I say no I feel guilty” by Manuel Smith

liftingnstuff · 2025-06-02T15:50:24+00:00

Go out to venues and look at guys who are with a hot girl/multiple hot girls. What are they wearing? Copy their style. Whatever clothes you wear will look better if you're in shape.

>I want yall opinion on this. Should i go out solo more?(i get more attention and feel comfortable) because i am tired of the clowning and coaching from these people I known for only 2 years.

Yes. If your friends are giving you bad advice and can't even pull women of quality you should seek advice elsewhere.

>Should i just talk to anyone about anything random that comes to mind ? THAT MAKES SENSE IN THE MOMENT

No. You're not trying to have a random conversation. You're trying to have a conversation about the girl you're interested in/"the potential dynamic between you and the girl you are interested in"

>Should i read more(for vocabulary and to better articulate my thoughts)

Sure. Reading is a good way to become a better conversationalist. So is Imrpov comedy.

>Should i workout and lose weight before pursuing online dating again?

Online dating is really bad if you're out of shape. You'll need really, really good photos and a good profile.

>Should i focus more on in real life communication to help better my text communication?

These are different skills. Work on both

I don't mean to be harsh but you should be trying to move out at your age. Look for roommates if it's expensive. It's going to be a massive hindrance with dating, especially at your age, and moving out/becoming independent will help your own inner game.

ThatDarnSmell · 2025-06-03T04:51:00+00:00

You think porn and such is the issue, but you have multiple red flags in your post.

1) Ditch those "friends." They are giving you terrible advice and are acting like guys who peaked in high school. Seek more mature people to hang around.

2) You can certainly choose to remain at home for a short while to save on expenses like rent and bills. But you absolutely have to develop life skills like cooking and taking care of yourself. Don't be co-dependent on others to take care of you. You're not a teenager or over 80. Set goals for yourself.

3) You have so many limiting beliefs holding you back. Exercise more, meditate, and possibly look into therapy. You need to be positive and more self-assured if you want respect from others.

And since you're only 31, I'd also recommend working more or even taking on a second job. Grind so you're keeping yourself busy and your family home is basically just a bed to sleep in. You really need to save some money and work on becoming an adult by being more independent and figuring things out for yourself.

Dating is the least of your worries right now. You need to improve your friend circle, your finances, your independence, your mental/physical health and then you can start to focus on dating. You're not in that place just yet.

Title	Reinventing myself
Author	Historical-Taro-7533
Upvotes	5
Comments	10
Date	June 2, 2025 9:57 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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