Back in college I was a gifted seducer. Everyone wanted to be my friend, and for many ladies, more than friends. I spent a long time trying to figure out what I was doing right. Now I have finally figured it out. I developed a reputation. As soon as I started at my school, which was very small, I removed all barriers of shyness and introduced myself to everyone. I made a special effort to target who I deemed to be popular. This worked wonders as soon enough everyone started to recognize me. They would see me hanging out with a different group everyday. This created the illusion that everyone wanted to spend time with me. The truth is I was more of a leech than anything, but the illusion was too strong. People felt that just by knowing me their social status had improved. I introduced people all the time and this made me seem important. Despite all this, I remained somewhat detached. Sit back and let people talk about you.

(I should mention, I was also wildly committed to debauchery which added danger to the reputation.)