seduction advice for a lady?

thendrill · 2012-01-25T20:46:15+00:00

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xpictoc114 · 2012-01-25T21:57:26+00:00

Become more sexual/feminine. What I mean by that is: occasionally use a cheeky innuendo, KINO (one move in particular I like is when a girl gets close and touches your chest with the palm of her hand), maybe wear a skirt or leggings every once in a while instead of jeans. Also, don't be afraid to initiate a conversation with a guy!

dakru · 2012-01-25T23:00:59+00:00

all the guys do it all the time and its perfectly fine, but women must not "open someone".

This is what so many women say, but it doesn't make any sense and it's sexist. It's not a man's job to make the moves any more than it is the woman's job to make the sandwiches! You can't just sit there and expect someone else to do everything.

Now yes, there are a few guys who think that too. But they seem to be the try-hard ultramasculine types who worry about being "emasculated" by a girl who gasp dares to express interest. I'm confident that they're far fewer in number than the women who think that, but if these types of people are the ones you're interested in, go ahead.

Now this doesn't necessarily mean completely throw yourself at a guy. Men can't really do that either. As much as most guys think that would be great, they might not respond well to it (i.e. find it attractive). But that's why you really need advice from other women about what they've done and what's worked. Just as we don't take advice from women on what they think would work on them because we want to know from other men what they know has worked.

2012-01-25T22:17:43+00:00

Have you considered taking up jogging? being physically fit can be extremely helpful in attracting a mate. Set obtainable goals for yourself as to not get discouraged at the beginning.

dawg1 · 2012-01-25T22:38:13+00:00

It is perfectly fine for women to "open" a guy. When a girl engages me, it shows me that 1. She is confident, which is sexy 2. That she is probably interested in me, which is sexy. If I am not interested in her, I'm not going to be mean or rude to her and neither will almost any man unless he is a douche, which you wouldn't want anyway. So there ya go, you have NOTHING to lose by talking to random guys.

throwawaysed369 · 2012-01-27T12:53:44+00:00

A great start would be by stopping with the slut-shaming.

lalalava · 2012-01-26T02:17:27+00:00

I agree, I want a female subreddit. Can we make one? :-D

Grumpy_Molar · 2012-01-25T20:40:48+00:00

A little more info about you would help your figure isn't going to be a problem getting a man. Do you live in a larger city? What is your weekly routine (do you work/go to school on days nights or part time)?

2012-01-26T00:22:15+00:00

"but women must not "open someone"" <- This is a limiting belief, start by getting rid of it.

gentlemanofleisure · 2012-01-26T04:03:27+00:00

seduction can work for girls but you need to study what guys like the same way we study what girls like.

if guys aren't hitting on you it's one of two things. a) you are locked in a room that no one can get into or 2) you could stand to get hotter.

sorry to be brutal but there it is. eat right, hit the gym and improve your inner game.

if guys are hitting on you but not the ones you want, change the places you hang out and change the way you feel about yourself. both of these are easier to change than trying to change the world. the way you feel about yourself will affect the way you interact with other people so it's an easy way to make yourself happier and attract better people.

if you are getting the guys you like but you aren't getting the relationship you want, you really need to change location because you are competing against the other girls for the attention of the best guys. if there are a lot of girls around then the guys won't have to worry about losing you.

MetaSnow · 2012-01-26T08:19:12+00:00

So much to address I cannot even read the other comments, most of which probably say the same thing. You are missing it, the general rues of seduction apply to everyone. Accept that you are awesome. Be sexy with what you can control. Hold high value for yourself and your life. GO OUT and meet people! Also, you are 19. You will hate to hear this and hate to accept it, but you are young and the chance for love is very slim at that age. That does not mean you should not pursue it. Find out exactly what you enjoy in a guy by meeting lots of them - and prepare for that to change, it will. Casual dating does not mean sleeping with a lot of men. If that is not your thing, DON'T do it; but do not sacrifice fun and self discovery, either.

The difficulty is the same for both. Approach guys, I fucking LOVE women who approach me. It is endearing and appreciable, and can lead to a lot more than you would ever expect. Stop cutting off such valuable and awesome resources in your life for self conjured social restrictions placed by "society". Fuck society, they would have us all follow each other like sheep to live the same cookie cutter lives. Not for me.

I will go live a badass adventure, and bring others with me on it! You can too, and being a women is not a ticket out.

JRAlpha · 2012-01-26T16:06:40+00:00

don't want to change too much and end like one of those sluts from my school...

There is so much wrong with that sentence that it makes me physically sick. If you spew that kind of shit on regular basis you have a mindset that is insanely unattractive.

Change is ESSENTIAL. Settling for the way you are now without desire t improve will get you nowhere. That is not to say that being wildly unhappy about yourself and hating yourself is good, it isn't. You should be generally happy with yourself but always work on improving yourself even further. Have you ever worked on something for a while, and liked the result? And yet you get that feeling that if you had more time, you could have made it that much better. That is the state you are looking for. By refusing to change, you are failing at the very first step.

Sluts do not exist. Pickup has taught me that. Every woman is a person, and every woman derives her own validation from different sources. Every woman has her own personality, fears, desires wishes. Every woman does her best in any given situation. And there is nothing wrong with being sexually free. You are not helping anyone by slut shaming other girls.

RedErin · 2012-01-27T16:49:03+00:00

Yes, women are welcome here in the seduction community and they can learn to be great seducers from it. The very basics work on all humans.

Though I'm concerned about your use of the word slut. What's wrong with two adults having consensual sex?

Do some reading on the sidebar and the top rated posts here and you'll learn a lot. The most important thing that seddit teaches is to have high self-esteem and lots of confidence.

vivelarose · 2012-02-02T14:14:43+00:00

Focus on being more social and talk to everyone you happen to hang out with and be around. When you meet a guy or a stranger that you're attracted to, you'd feel more comfortable approaching. Its also important to build on inner game to get better with approaching. Just talk to them like any other person. Dont be hesitant, realize that the other person might feel the same way and not want to approach. Push your anxiety aside as you approach, you've got nothing to lose in the end.

Another thing you can do is study body language. When you're attracted to someone, give off hints that you're into them. And look for hints in the other person to best approach them.

The most important thing is to build confidence or just pretend that you are a confident person in everything you do, with everyone you meet. With time and practice, you will run into someone that sees that in you and want to approach you. Also, have fun with meeting new people, you're naturally attractive when you're having a good time and showing it to everyone around you.

Best of luck

Jay69Rich · 2012-01-25T20:13:24+00:00

No worries. NOTHING beats the cute innocent ones. All you have to do is show up, try somewhere new the "usuals" anywhere I go always seem to just blend in.

Title	seduction advice for a lady?
Author	kittie_lady
Upvotes	10
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Date	January 25, 2012 8:09 PM UTC (14 years ago)
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