Self confidence

MO_drps_knwldg · 2021-02-02T18:32:53+00:00

What helps my inner confidence is:

When I’m in good physical shape. Doesn’t mean being ripped or overly-muscular.
Getting a good night’s sleep
Eating healthy as opposed to like crap
Engaging in a physical activity where I’m competing or working on my skills with other men. I took up kickboxing last year, and it’s humbling but pushes my comfort zone.
Taking a few minutes to close my eyes and focus on the things I have and that I’m grateful for.
Genuinely getting something accomplished with my job.
Accomplishing a personal goal or task
Doing something to make my girlfriend, friend, or family member happy without expecting anything in return.
Reading and writing
Meeting with friends
Interacting with real women and not watching pornography

On a superficial level:

Wearing clothes that fit well but are comfortable
Wearing my watch
Wearing cologne, something that makes me feel bold
Having sex

ShakaPiontkowskie1 · 2021-02-02T18:29:17+00:00

Confidence is built by work and focus, get out there and cold approach while pretending to be confident and after a while, you will become confident by taking right action.

djdante · 2021-02-02T21:34:05+00:00

Here is my advice for you - it's the advice I always give men.

STOP TRYING TO FAKE CONFIDENCE - it's totally overrated, especially during daygame.

If I get a set of twins, and they're both insecure with women - I get one of them to fake confidence - and the other to be more humble and vocalise the fact he's nervous as he doesn't approach often - The latter almost ALWAYS gets a better opportunity to get to know the woman because she gives him more o fa chance, AND trusts him WAY MORE than the fake version.

The IMPORTANT thing to do, is identify any 'CREEPY' things you may inadvertently do when you are insecure... things like: too much eye contact, too little eye contact, standing too close to her and invading her personal space. The major stuff that can creep women out - you have to stop that stuff... but being a bit nervous... in my 12 years of coaching, has rarely been a problem that makes regular women on the street not want to get to know a guy. OFten it makes him way more trustworthy than if he was cocky.

REMEMBER - only the most confident woman in the room, wants the most confident guy in the room. The rest are a lot more sympathetic. The mere fact you make an approach makes you a bit sexy, regardless of how cocky you act.

XtraSaucyy · 2021-02-02T18:51:52+00:00

The more you work on yourself and get the things you want the more overall happy you will be and in turn not have any negative insecure thoughts. I’m insecure about my body but I’m going to the gym now and slowly I’m getting better because at least I’m working towards the goal. That’s more than some people can say.

revente · 2021-02-02T19:14:39+00:00

So when you meet a girl you like and there is time to do the deed, go to her place instead of yours.

Addensess · 2021-02-02T23:03:11+00:00

It has been mentioned but I wanted to elaborate

Eat enough food so you meet you calorie(energy) need. Eat something healthy aswell, macro nutrients and other nutrients

Get you quota of sleep! Sleep gives confidence imo. You might say "I can rest when I'm dead" well you will not increase you awake time by staying up. It is shown that lack of sleep can reduce you life by several years.

Exercise. Exercise breaks you down. Your body will then build you up even stronger. You need a well built cardiovascular system to pump oxygen to your brain, it gives confidence imo.

Experience and success, which means you have to meet people from time to time and talk to them. Live in the movement, look your peers in the eye and feel what they feel. Connect as if you were a hippie!

Imo you can not have great confidence if you fail at any of these. After a couple of weeks you will find youself surprised when things that used to bother you doesn't make you feel worried any more. Good feeling will start to "creep up on you"

DivineBeast9 · 2021-02-03T00:13:54+00:00

People seem to underestimate how effective a consistent 7-8 hours of sleep are for you. Especially when it comes to feeling good and confident about yourself. And I’m not talking about just once in a while lol but if you can make it a habit of sleeping the right amount of time day in and day out it’ll do wonders for you

bunsiescheeks · 2021-02-03T13:23:55+00:00

Fake it til you make it.

Also try and figure out "why" you're not confident. I'll assume it has something to do with an insecurity or your perception of yourself.

I'm not gonna give you specific advice and whatnot, Google has plenty of that and so does this comments section but YOU figure out the cause and work to solve it.

Over time, you'll be the confident self you fake to be. Or perhaps even now, "you may be as confident as you make-believe you are" you just haven't acknowledged/believed yourself enough.

e99999999999999999 · 2021-02-03T17:58:48+00:00

Confidence isn’t something you turn on and do..... confidence is earned and built upon your life and skills. If you were actually confident you wouldn’t feel any different once you get home. Confidence comes from your positive experiences and success, the more you succeed the more confident you become. A lot of people here don’t seem to understand what confidence actually is, which leads to post like this.

There is no “fake it till you make it” because for 1. Faking anything is insecurity and that’s not confident. 2. If you pretend to be confident (you don’t know what that actually is so you’ll be called out/exposed) people will want proof. If you say you’re a great basketball player and they say ok let’s play. If you’re not confident what’s gonna happen? Exactly, they will expose you for who you really are.

You can’t fake this (because it’s literally built........) I don’t care what anyone says...

ok2co · 2021-02-02T19:45:02+00:00

Building confidence takes time. Take the time needed to refuel your body at home and then go back out and do it again. It’ll get easier each time.

2021-02-02T20:14:01+00:00

People look at confidence like it’s a part of you. If you approach a girl despite how nervous u are you are confident enough to do it. It’s like that.

RoseTinted64 · 2021-02-02T21:36:12+00:00

Confidence cannot be faked. If you're speaking in regards to your confidence with women, you don't have it yet, nor do most men. That comes in time. Stop trying to be confident. Instead, try being sincere.

Good luck and god speed.

Asian_Alpha · 2021-02-02T22:22:50+00:00

Proteus effect look it up

intensely_human · 2021-02-02T23:19:38+00:00

Increase your competence, and face difficult situations, in order to increase your confidence without putting on a mask.

Engkaungsan · 2021-02-03T01:03:57+00:00

For me, it's looking at everybody as equal. Women are just human just with boobs and butts. So I don't get too excited when looking at pretty girls and see clearly about their character and actions.

2021-02-03T17:16:16+00:00

Consult with a therapist, psychologist or psychiatrist who can help on confidence. Faking it isn't real as it's self deception. You might have low self esteem or external locus of identity (likes self as others like oneself). One needs to have internal locus of identity (self esteem, self confidence, ID, self concept). It's possible that one may have lost it. Think about whether there was a time or few experiences that got you triggered in losing it. Once the turning point is known, one can find therapeutic ways to heal and recover. Even if you're not sure about when it was gone, you can still get therapy/treatment. Follow the guidelines by the therapist/psychologist during therapy mode. Good luck! Be safe!

socialanimal_us · 2021-02-04T16:24:53+00:00

Confidence is really something that emerge naturally from how you see the world. In the context of dating, I feel there are 2 fundament aspect - 1 how confortable are you expressing yourself and being true to yourself vs if you censor yourself a lot and 2 how confortable are you with your desire. You will Enjoy these 2 videos about these 2 topics 1- https://youtu.be/0lKRM76uFeI 2-https://youtu.be/bZAgGiDf2lo

Title	Self confidence
Author	Ves1555
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Date	February 2, 2021 5:31 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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