Severe oneitis and can't move on. Would appreciate words of wisdom or a slap in the face.

Vendetta425 · 2016-10-04T07:20:35+00:00

You should try to meet more girls. Keep your self busy and focus on what's ahead.

Just keep meeting more people and she will be a distant memory.

vulgrrr · 2016-10-04T07:31:18+00:00

Sometimes you just need to give it time. Keep doing what you're doing i.e. hobbies, work, meeting new girls. If you keep meeting new girls you'll quickly realize that she was pretty insignificant in the grand scheme of things.

Supatroopa_ · 2016-10-04T10:14:38+00:00

As julien blanc says in his manifesto, you can't keep running from the feeling to get over it, you have to go through it. Really just sit down and go through the feeling.

Why is it hard to get over her? Why was she perfect?

But not just ask the question and answer it, you have to explore it. And just be brutally honest with yourself. It hurts, but it hurts more not letting go

Jacob_961 · 2016-10-04T08:54:57+00:00

Every girl is replacable. If you want this girl, you can go chode and tell her you are attracted to her and can't see yourself with any other girl as long as you communicate it from a place of strength, you have a shot. If ugly Betty proclaims her love for you, it's repulsive. If your dream girl tells you she has feeling for you, it's the best thing that will ever happen to you.

The reason the seduction community exists is because value is perceptual, it's not black and white. An unemployed, uneducated guy living in his mom's basement can lay a model. Why is that? Because her perception of your value defines your value. And the perception tools women have are evolutionary. Having a PHD in astrophysics doesn't hit an attraction switch, neither do money or cars. Cavemen didn't have Ferraris, possessions or degrees, so although society values money, on the biological level the girl doesn't understand the concept of what money is and therefore an attraction switch is not triggered. So what did they man have of value to women? You have to understand the the world was a very harsh and nasty place for a very long time for us. Women were significantly more vulnerable then men because they are phyisically smaller, have less muscle and enormously at risk should they become pregnant, they are at risk even when they are not pregnant as well because the reason they are physically weaker is because they have a baby making factory they need to take care of. So what does a girl need a guy for in caveman time? Protection and survival only, nothing else. Survival skills include physical strength, dominance and ability move other people into action, ability to lead. Our intelligence and acute social awareness is a survival skill. We're not smart because we love math so much. We're smart because we needed to be smarter, more intelligent than our friends. Pack animals follow the strongest in the pack, once strength is observed, the rest all follow. Same goes for people, stregth leads to followers. That is why putting the name "Jordan" on a pair of sneakers leads to a hit. It's a biological mechanism. When a woman observes strength in you, she will have the urge to come into association with you. It's a biological response.

But let's say you are the strongest and most valuable person in the tribe but are not attracted to the girl, will you protect her? The answer is no. So women have a secondary mechanism that activates when a guy shows that he is attracted to the girl. That is why all romance novels have rich, handsome, badass guys that pursue the ordinary not-so-special female character to the ends of the world and risk every to get the girl. Women need to feel that you value her above all other girls or else she cannot trust that you will not fuck her an leave. But the key is that your attraction to her has to come from a place of strength. You choose her, not beg, because the bottom line is that your job is to look after her survival for the rest of your life just so she gives you a baby. That is a good trade for her if you ask me. That is why needy behavior is so repulsive to women. Women need us for a lifetime, we need them for 9 months. Why is this guy supplicating so much? He must not have a lot of value.

The fact that ugly Betty is attracted to you, does nothing for you. The fact that bitch-ass John is attracted to the girl mean even less. She cannot trust bitch-ass John even if John has a Ferrari and money because she is imaging a lion attacking her, not the bank calling on an overdue loan. John is a better option for her survival now but she will go for unemployed Jimmy becase Jimmy is buff, confident, charming and she feels safe with him.

GET_HYPE_4_LYFE · 2016-10-04T13:47:57+00:00

So it's like me with my ex.

What helped me was time.

Analinvaeder · 2016-10-05T00:09:10+00:00

Go fuck some girls, fuck at least 50 girls and tell me you still think about her.

MeisterMumpitz · 2016-10-04T07:36:18+00:00

This one helped me a lot:

https://youtu.be/GdnYedTpToA

Title	Severe oneitis and can't move on. Would appreciate words of wisdom or a slap in the face.
Author	breakingthehabits
Upvotes	1
Comments	8
Date	October 4, 2016 7:11 AM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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