Shit tests in a relationship? (in another's words manning up)

UnapologeticalyAlive · 2012-12-10T21:39:20+00:00

I pick up books for complete strangers. That's just common courtesy.

I think the real things you need to be worrying about are: when she asks you to do something, does she expect it from you? Does she see you as a servant or an equal partner? And when you do stuff for her, are you doing it because you enjoy helping her out, or because you're seeking her approval?

xiko · 2012-12-10T21:29:42+00:00

It depends on context. There are true tests and stuff that aren't tests. I would pick up the books that a friend dropped for example and I don't consider it a test at all.

fatless · 2012-12-10T21:34:24+00:00

Shit tests are not part of relationships. What you may have experienced was manipulation, but being helpful and kind to your girlfriend is not a bad thing, but you need to realize that being helpful/kind/courteous is not quid pro quo for her desire to be (and stay) with you - supplication drives women away.

seedit · 2012-12-11T00:16:16+00:00

There may be some subtle 'test' from time to time in relationships but this is not one of them. Doing favors (even big ones) is fine because she should be doing them for you too. It's part of sharing your time with someone and letting them into your life.

Title	Shit tests in a relationship? (in another's words manning up)
Author	SingAlong_Original
Upvotes	6
Comments	4
Date	December 10, 2012 7:16 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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