Should I engage in long conversations before the first date ?

Fuzzy-Bottle-4138 · 2024-02-29T17:32:03+00:00

Why are you even wasting time on girls that are a 5 hour drive away? You literally have to buy a hotel, spend 10 hours of time driving back and forth plus gas money, and stay at family’s house for a night just go on a single first date. And she’s basically a complete stranger you know nothing about. It’s fucking insane.

There’s millions of girls just like her. Abundance mentality.

ROBYoutube · 2024-02-29T17:22:59+00:00

My fear is a long conversation which will kill the mystery before our first date.

My dude, most women don't give too much of a fuck about 'the mystery' of it all. They're more worried about normal things, like their safety around a stranger they have seen once over camera phone.

TRTGymBro · 2024-02-29T20:39:12+00:00

are you that desperate for pussy? Go pay an escort, at least you don't have to drive 5 hours and you will be guaranteed sex.

letsgetwizzyy · 2024-03-01T00:33:36+00:00

You should not be messaging her in the time between the date for a couple reasons. First, you should be busy working on your purpose in life and developing yourself into a high quality man. You literally shouldn't have time to initiate conversation with her randomly throughout the day because you're busy trying to become a badass. Secondly, it's not what women want you to do. Women need to be wondering about you and anticipating when she will hear from you next. When you aren't messaging her daily like other guys, she is wondering why you aren't and starts thinking that you are higher value because there's something different about you, as you aren't texting her stupid stuff like the other guys who attempt to build comfort.

When you aren't texting her, she's wondering why, and her imagination runs wild. She starts thinking that you probably are busy dating other girls, starts wondering about your career or what you've got going on in your life, she starts to think that you aren't into her that much (which is different because most guys don't behave like that) and this turns them on.

Most guys message in between because they think that woman will interpret them not messaging them in between as an indicator of you not liking them. That's false. If you've scheduled a set time and place, plans have been made and its a date. She's not going to forget that she scheduled a date with a guy she's very attracted to because you haven't messaged her in 7 days.

With that being said, if a woman does message you in between the date, you obviously don't ignore her. Women messaging men is good behavior that should be rewarded. So, respond to her message in adequate time (if you're actually busy respond when you can), just don't reply in such a way that provokes a response out of her. Her messaging you first is a good indication that she is attracted to you, but you must save building attraction for the date.

This article details why you only need to send 1-3 messages to convert matches to dates on dating apps: https://open.substack.com/pub/jackedguy/p/how-to-get-dates-on-dating-apps-a?r=31tj3q&utm\_campaign=post&utm\_medium=web

TripleDigitNomad · 2024-02-29T18:25:05+00:00

My fear is a long conversation which will kill the mystery before our first date.

Who the fuck came up with this bullshit? It's parroted way too much here.

My man, girls don't give a fuck about mystery. In fact, being mysterious is a disadvantage as it means there's a risk you end up being a creep, loser, or boring AF. Women much prefer feeling comfortable and confident about you before meeting you in person.

Should I, or how can I keep the conversation short, but keep her fired up about meeting me ?

Just treat her like a normal human being. That means talk to her if she's trying to talk to you. If the conversation goes into deep topics, let it. Just tread carefully around controversial or sensitive issues (google RAPE conversation topics).

Build a connection so that she's excited and confident about meeting you. Otherwise there's a much higher chance she'll bail. And no, you won't run out of topics when you meet in person. Do you run out of topics when you meet up with your friends? No, exactly.

Noiam_Chomsky · 2024-02-29T20:04:46+00:00

Potential_Virus_8704 · 2024-02-29T17:40:17+00:00

Re-frame it. You want the longer call to see if she’s wierd or not, so that you can avoid going all that way and rizz out at ur sisters instead

topsy_here · 2024-02-29T17:57:04+00:00

Call her but then keep it short.

Title	Should I engage in long conversations before the first date ?
Author	FrasierSein
Upvotes	1
Comments	18
Date	February 29, 2024 5:12 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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