Should I have been more direct when asking for her number?

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Playful_Dot_537 · 2024-12-09T16:17:39+00:00

She may or may not have been interested in you. But she clearly did not want you stalking her at her yoga class.

Gotta pay attention to people’s boundaries.

tm354 · 2024-12-09T16:12:28+00:00

If I were you, I would have said:

“Give me your number and we’ll go out sometime.”

Call me old fashioned but a guy who goes/wants to go to a yoga class is kinda sus. Also, I’d recommend not interfering with her work.

Icy_Line_4861 · 2024-12-09T16:05:20+00:00

She was not interessed in give her number to you, bro. That's all.

WillC0508 · 2024-12-09T16:16:45+00:00

Brushing hair doesn’t necessarily mean they’re into you, it means they’re anxious. Which goes hand in hand with interest. So she might’ve been uncomfortable in this instance

Western-Month-3877 · 2024-12-09T17:39:29+00:00

I called the PAUSE as a “confidence challenge.” It could mean she hesitates, it could mean nothing. But once you asked, there’s no turning back. Just wait until she gives you a response. I got that quite a few times, I would say in most cases she probably tries to process what’s going on. Once you asked then either she’d say yes or no, that’s it. Act accordingly.

This is similar to texting. Just because she hasn’t replied doesn’t mean she doesn’t like your text. Even for hours, that’s why you don’t double text. If she ended up ignoring you? That’s fine too. That means she’s not interested.

liftingnstuff · 2024-12-09T17:59:12+00:00

If you're dancing and flirting just kiss her. Escalate accordingly from there. If you have to separate at some point for whatever reason, suggest an activity/date that you should do together, then tell her to give you her number so you can plan out the details if she agrees. This is best done off an emotional high point in the interaction. Separating and then asking for her number when the vibe is lower is not going to work nearly as well. When you randomly walking up at the end and asking for her number in front of her friend, she may feel that her friend will be judgemental even if he's not her boyfriend. Don't ask if she's single. If she has a boyfriend that makes her unavailable she will tell you voluntarily.

You should text her something like "Hey HerName, it's YourName from the party." Then reference some memorable banter/part of your conversation. Then something like "We should do a yoga class and then get drinks/smoothie/bubble tea/coffee after"

Title	Should I have been more direct when asking for her number?
Author	theadept1313
Upvotes	4
Comments	10
Date	December 9, 2024 3:58 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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