Should I spend a year getting in shape before even attempting to get laid?

leoyoung1 · 2016-02-28T05:06:10+00:00

No. As a man with mild Aspergers, I have never had a problem getting laid. Thinking you are not worth "getting laid" untill you are "buff" is a thinking error. If she isn't interested in who you are, as you are, move on. There are LOTS of willing women out there. My best advice for you is to like who you are. If you don't, why should anyone else? I don't have to know a thing about you to know that you are a wonderful human being and that there are many great things about you. My second best advice is to find someone you like and are genuinely interested in and get curious about who she is. Express that interest and get to know her. If the interest is mutual, sex will follow. Finally, learn to dance. Women love a man who can dance. Good luck.

Dpb1994 · 2016-02-28T04:58:29+00:00

You have to do what you feel is best. You will only be doing yourself a favor by getting in shape. The decision to try attracting women is up to you though.

I will say this though: form good habits before you bring someone into your life. I lost 70 pounds and gained almost all of it back over the course of my last relationship. Right now I'm going through personal training and just generally working on making myself a better man.

"Don't worry about finding the right person. Focus on becoming the right person."

daddymonsterpoodle · 2016-02-28T08:52:30+00:00

No, another year of avoiding interacting with women isn't gonna help you get laid. Sure, working out is great for itself, and looking better never hurt but pudgy charming guys get laid too. What working out does for ya is give you the self-belief that you are attractive and that gives you more confidence. It is the confidence that makes you really attractive. It seems like telling yourself you have aspergers and that is why you aren't getting laid becomes self-fulfillung. If you have zero social awareness what are you planning to do when they fall in love with your new bod and actually want to talk to you. Tl:Dr? Getting in shape is never bad. Don't stop gaming though, IMVHO. Be aware if your limiting beliefs.

reddiot666 · 2016-02-28T05:50:26+00:00

You should spend your whole life getting in shape and let getting laid just happen whenever. You can throw back beers with the guys rather than be that creepy weirdo at the bar, danceclub 10 years after everyone has gotten married had kids. Protein Mutha Fudga

SmoothPrimal · 2016-02-28T12:16:50+00:00

Horrible idea. You'll just delay until you are too fucking big to pick up any girls. Then you'll be like "Should I cut before I start approaching girls."

dtothetwo · 2016-03-10T13:19:16+00:00

no way man. do it NOW. the gym is great but you need to be able to win them over with your personality

looks don't matter. do the best you can with what you have, try to be stylish, but your personality is gonna be like 75-90% of your 'game'

jefffffffff · 2016-02-28T05:08:08+00:00

Honestly. As much as people tell you not to. I did. I took about 15 months getting a much better physique before I started approaching. One thing I noticed was how much girls fucking love muscle. Touching it. Grabbing it. Complimenting them. They fucking love it. Ultimitly do what you think you are ready for. But in reality you can start to learn game without being huge.

NotMyBestEffort · 2016-02-28T05:26:45+00:00

...Both !!!!!!!!!!! any success along the way is progress - is confidence - is energy to continue. Work out, Work on you, Work your way into social situations. Progress be Progress

Bashkir · 2016-02-28T06:26:47+00:00

As someone who went from being generally unfit to being in love with fitness, no you shouldn't. You should get in shape for yourself. It sounds like cheesy, stereotypical advice, but you will exude a new level of confidence when you come to enjoy and love what you have worked so hard for.

That being said, being in shape obviously will not hurt your chances of attracting women haha.

Title	Should I spend a year getting in shape before even attempting to get laid?
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Date	February 28, 2016 4:48 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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