Hey seddit.

I've been seeing this girl for the past two months, which has been great. I am really into her and things seem to be going well, but just the other day I had a conversation with her where she told me that she wasn't interested in a serious relationship and wants to stay casual. I'm ok with that for now, but hearing this was upsetting for me. Ever since she's said that, I've been feeling generally pretty shitty and agitated. This emotional disturbance led me to do some introspection, and I have made a few realizations about myself:

  • I invested way too much emotionally into this girl

I think about her a lot. I worry way too much about when I'm going to see her again, etc. She was placed in a very prioritized spot in my mind.

  • I put too much importance in my relationships with women

Too much of my emotional state is dependent on my relationships. Ideally, I feel like I should be a content and complete being without a girl, and then a girl is an added bonus to that. Instead, I feel like, in this relationship in particular, the girl has become too integrated into my emotional wellbeing. If she were removed, it would cause me so much pain.

  • Because of how much I invest emotionally into these relationships, it's hard to make the relationship equal

The girl im seeing now is the second major relationship I've had, despite the fact that it's only casual now. In my first relationship, I know for a fact that I was more emotionally invested the entire time. It seems like that's the case here too.

I want to stop this. I need to somehow lessen how much I invest into women or I'm going to have major problems. If you're wondering, I'm not a boring or sad dude. I go to school, I'm passionate about things I do, and I have a lot of friends. I know there can't be an easy answer to this, but what can I do to remedy these attachment issues?