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Someone had to say it.

haTrick03 · 2019-01-11T21:38:18+00:00

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January 11, 2019

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Title	Someone had to say it.
Author	haTrick03
Upvotes	317
Comments	65
Date	January 11, 2019 9:38 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/af0a6k/someone_had_to_say_it/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/seduction/someone-had-to-say-it.1460347 https://theredarchive.com/post/1460347

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[–]CulturalDetective 19 points20 points21 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

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most of the crap you read on here is:

1) anecdotal and specific to the person speaking about it, not even close to general advice

2) poorly drawn conclusions ("i did this, so this is what got her to fuck me!" no buddy you probably did something else or she was just horny and lonely).

3) blatant fabrication. i can tell some people on here lie for karma boosts and ego boosts i guess.

only general advice on here that is accurate for everyone

be happy with yourself no shit
go to the gym and look better physically
APPROACH, just do it. shoot your shot. look like a dumb ass until it works. especially when you're younger and most younger guys have less confidence until they get older.

whatever gets you doing those 3 you can ignore the rest. honestly. it's just fluff and not very useful. it's also what these PUA pedal to sell seminars, books, and practices or whatever crap.

before you go blahblah stop being a pessimist. i'm being quite positive and make it less overwhelming crap that frustrated guys need to deal with.

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I think what your saying is that there doesn't seem to be a set strategy..... Correct?

That's true, there'll never be a one trick catches all chicks strat.... Truthfully if that's what you want then I'd suggest building your own style & sticking to that role adamanyly.... Chicks might shit test you to see if you're truly secure /confidence but if you pass it'll only cement your appeal but in general the trick is to be adaptable..... If she thinks a certain style is played or not to her taste then switch to another at the drop of a hat & with style as if your new frame of the default & any thought otherwise is folly.

One of the next bits of advice I got was this :

Think of the type of girl you like.... Is she shy or social? A reader or a drinker Is she into chit chat & witty humour or deep intellectual thought

The reason I mentione all this is because if your set on a particular type of girl it'll help to get your own style down. This will also help you with confidence and will also help ensure you're getting the type of girl you want....

All too often I accepted what was offered to me, I wasn't great at flirting at first & rather than persue the chick I really liked I hooked up with the flirty ho who threw it at me.... Don't make this mistake.... Well, who are we kidding, fuck her but remember it's just practice not the goal.

On the topic of practice also think the type of girl you think it might be easiest for you to flirt with.... Sometimes it's the shy type because she allows you the space to practice your game....

Sometimes it's the flirty / tarty girl at the bar, either way.... Get into your role & practice

Soon enough you'll realise you're ready

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Women have flaws but want the perfect guy? I would never catch a women admitting she has flaws.

We talk about value in a subjective sense. I promise you any value you guys would come up with in why a guy is getting the girl. The guy that isn't getting the girl has the same value barring exceptions. Its the women that decides if she wants to see it or not. Thats why i say some women see me as worthless even tho i have much higher value than they think.

I also dont feel like I have a head start. I honestly believe even if i fixed my inner game issues and approached my results would never change at all because its something i've dealt with my whole life and i can't possibly sed how women would randomly change their mind when i used to be a better person before.

Sorry if it sounds like i am aggressive. I actually appreciate your replies.

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Women have flaws but want the perfect guy?

Thats why i say some women see me as worthless even tho i have much higher value than they think.

I'm trying to figure out throughout this conversation where this ever popped up. Why do you feel that way? To me it seems to have a very skewed view of what women are, which is that they are people too. Actually, seeing how 'feel' that other guys don't have value but are in relationships is definitely alarming as well.

Relationships aren't a 'quid pro quo' kind of thing. This isn't something that one can measure.

There's a quote that is always thrown around. And brought up in a best of thread over a year ago over an interesting guy.

"You judge others by their actions, but you judge yourself by your intentions."

I know it gets repeated in here. But you're going to have to work on yourself. Does it sound repetitive? It sounds very generic. But it's true.

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