Something I've realized from my short experience with women.

Dandys3107 · 2024-03-01T10:54:40+00:00

Yeah, sometimes I get the feeling that these are in fact women that are objectifying guys more commonly, seeing men mainly through the perspective of being useful for them in one way or another, for example that would be for pleasure, resources, status etc. and completely ignoring/disrespecting those "beneath" in social ladder.

DaygameCode · 2024-03-01T11:15:53+00:00

Yeah, because neediness, desperation, is repulsive and un attractive. Cheating on them might hurt them, but it doesn’t mean they are still not attracted to you. They just upset that some other women is having you. If you tell them that it was a mistake they forgive you because they still think you are attractive and a catch, and well who doesn’t want a catch.

A needy guy however is proving her he is not that attractive or a catch, it opens her eyes, it tells her "you are my only option because no other women will like me like you do" and if that's true the the girl thinks "well, if i am the only one then that must mean i made a wrong decision choosing him, he must not be catch, or else other women would like him like i did. Why should i be with a loser who no other woman wants?"

So ironically, when you cheat you are proving to women that you are a catch, because other women want you, when you are clingy and needy you prove to them the opposite.

And women would rather be with a guy who is a catch because it means he must probably have desirable traits that are more important than absolute permanent loyalty, such us: Good genes, high status, power, fame, money, good social skills, good standard of living, access to more opportunities…

the needy guy might have those things but that's rare. Because if he did then he would not need a specific woman, he would easily find other women to replace her.

norwegiandoggo · 2024-03-01T10:35:53+00:00

While this is a generalization, there's some truth to what you say. However, keep in mind that the same is true for men. Men are also more likely to take back a woman that cheated if the woman is attractive. And when you say "low class / high class" what I interpret that as is "not attractive / very attractive". Those behaviors you mentioned are generally considered attractive or unattractive.

Vinegar_Tits_9 · 2024-03-01T12:36:09+00:00

Nope. I’d never forgive cheating. It’s a non negotiable. You cheat, you never see me again.

TRTGymBro · 2024-03-01T12:08:23+00:00

Tattoo this onto your forehead: people NEVER want what they CAN get and ONLY want what they CAN'T get.

If you filter all your experiences with women through this lens, it will make total sense. Yes, the guy who ghosts, doesn't always pay her attention, disappears for a while, etc., he becomes the guy she can't get. She can't land him and tame him, therefore she ONLY wants him.

The guy who gets needy, too attached, is always available is the guy she CAN get, and she NEVER wants him.

tilldeathdoiparty · 2024-03-01T20:13:38+00:00

These are all observations from your experience, these are not facts and they are not rules.

Some men cheat, so do some women, so will forgive and some will not, there is no way to broad stroke to every personality because your friend group displays these traits.

The_Core_Shadow · 2024-03-01T10:40:41+00:00

Nah. Women, and all humans for that matter, are much more complex than that. Our behaviours are influenced by millions of factors. What you describe is a stereotypical extrapolation. The world is not that simple. Life is not that simple.

SnooHesitations4922 · 2024-03-01T12:06:44+00:00

Women go back to their abusers because they define safety and security differently than we do.

In her mind, the guy that abuses her has a higher capability of violence and a safer bet for her and her future offspring. If he is violent towards her, in her mind he's likely to be violent to threats against her. This is the basis of Stockholm syndrome in females. The more unsafe the guy actually is...the more safe the girl feels around him.

I, in no way shape or form condone abusing women...but primal instincts are relatively unchanged since the dawn of man even though society has changed greatly. The way to live is don't take shit from anybody including women and children...but physical violence is reserved for men vs. men; you verbally check women. the second u put your hands on a woman or a child you become the lowest form of coward.

tyYdraniu · 2024-03-01T17:38:30+00:00

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Title	Something I've realized from my short experience with women.
Author	d_thstroke
Upvotes	63
Comments	17
Date	March 1, 2024 9:52 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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