Talking for a month, def had a good connection, had sex, texted too much she said better off as friends. Can I get out of friend zone?

AnonomousWolf · 2019-09-27T11:35:58+00:00

Don't ever let girls know you're chasing them, give them amazing sex if you get to Smash. (read a few books on sex) Don't be needy, attract her with your lifestyle and fun personality.

Don't have a cool lifestyle / personally? Start working towards it asap.

If she's not attracted, move on, go find the next girl.

Don't make the mistake of chasing one girl that's just not that into you, there are hundreds of girls out there that would be

DAOcomment2 · 2019-09-27T19:12:11+00:00

Get other girls. You've established yourself as a pussy with this one. Just the act of trying to get her back is something a cool guy wouldn't do. A cool guy would literally just rotate the next girl in when one falls off, which is what you're not doing. Do that. If you can't do that, get yourself into a position where you can. Because once a girl's impression of you is set as a loser, you're usually done with that particular girl. The only time it ever flips around is when she sees you with other girls, because that is a hard and honest signal that your value is greater than she estimated. Funny enough, by then, you won't care about this chick anymore even if she comes back around.

In your career of meeting women, you are going to take a lot of losses. Each of these losses is of great value precisely because they hurt. That hurt is a memory of what you did wrong. You may understand in your head what to do and what not to do, but in your head there isn't real pain, and pain is what actually modifies your behavior. Pain teaches you to not be a loser and to be cool. Thank every one of these failures because they are your teachers. When you accumulate enough painful experiences of losing various girls, your entire being shifts in the right direction, you stop making those old mistakes, and you start doing the right thing naturally.

gameandrsd · 2019-09-27T12:45:26+00:00

"Easy cutie, I've got enough friends"

One of your mistakes was texting too much.

Drop the above text and leave it there, don't text longer past that, don't invest anymore, game other girls, let her see your cool lifestyle somehow.

Your frame should be she's cute I enjoyed her company and she might have misunderstood my attention as being needy so I'll give her space

Don't act butthurt though, you are the prize.

And lastly, if you apply it properly invite her to a party or a brunch or any kind of outing where there is cool friends, and girls around you.. Treat her nice at that gathering but treat her as she asked as a "friend" and let her see you treating other girls more flirtatious..

Just make sure you don't look try hard. It should be very subtle.

SerMyronGaines · 2019-09-27T12:11:40+00:00

How was the sex? Maybe if you were incompetent in the bedroom, that may have led to her putting you in the friendzone

leaf7895 · 2019-09-27T13:22:23+00:00

Tell her you're not interested in being friends and that you want a romantic relationship. When she gets to rriendzome you again after saying this, tell her to call/text you when she changes her mind. The hardest part is waiting for her to contact you, but whatever you do, DO NOT contact her first. That would be seen as weakness/neediness. She should reach out later, and at this point make plans with her.

Also, you should only be light texting to set up dates.

Kpunto · 2019-09-27T14:45:32+00:00

Why don't you just look for someone that likes you how you really are? How long can you fake being a different person? That's not healthy.

WIA20XX · 2019-09-27T14:59:27+00:00

No. Move on

WeakEmu8 · 2019-09-27T12:24:21+00:00

She said she thinks we are better off as friends.

"Nah, I got enough friends". And cut comms until she's showing some interest / value, then tease.

yardapesbb · 2019-09-27T13:16:47+00:00

Friend zone is like quicksand. You never get out.

2019-09-27T13:58:18+00:00

Plenty of chicks, onto the next one!

datedatedatedate · 2019-09-29T19:15:28+00:00

Lot of good responses in here.

Update: Texted a few times, I just acted like nothing happen and got back on my confidence shit. Talked about new client I got and mentioned muay thai trainig which she didn't know I do. I highly recommend everyone get into some type of martial arts. You get in shape, it builds your confidence and it keeps you busy.

Called her today she said she felt like I made the decision for her about us like being together. Don't ever get ahead of yourself with a girl. I had a crush on her in high school so now that we started talking I think it took me back to how I was back then.

Long story short it's not over and I am going away next weekend for a bachelor party (and I brought this up said I was going on a trip) and we are gonna hang out when I get back.

I heard a saying if you can still make her laugh you still have a chance and she was still laughing at my jokes. Sometimes you have a small window to win them back so we'll see what happens.

I'm always up for a challenge but I know when to quit and it's not time to quit yet.

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