Hey Seddit,

I'm hoping some of you will be able to share some info on how to fix a personal problem of mine. You see, over the years I've worked on building up my confidence in an approach/just socializing with girls in an alpha manner and I have to say I've gotten good at it. I can usually acquire numbers without too much of an issue, but my problem lies after I get the number.

Once I get a number I'll usually text her the next day and try to engage in some banter. Unfortunately, even though I feel confident in person, I don't feel confident at all over a phone or through Facebook. I find myself second guessing the things that I say or getting nervous when I don't get a direct response. Here's a little clip from what goes on in my brain: "I probably shouldn't have said that. Well, that was a lame joke. I wonder what she thinks of that. She probably thinks I'm a creep now. She's gonna think I'm weird or a loser. I should probably delete that comment before she see's it. I sound way to clingy right now. Maybe I should just ignore her and act like I don't care. I don't want her to think I'm desperate."

This will go back and forth in my mind or I'll just sit there for a while and try to think of the "perfect" thing to say and then end up later think that was stupid too. Has anybody else ever felt this way? I want to not give a fuck and go with the flow, because I feel like this is making my replies sound way too thought-out and extensive. Basically I'm trying to find a way to shut off that part of my brain and just enjoy the conversation via technology without being so anxious about it. Any help would be appreciated!