I know these posts circulate every once in a while but I just really wanted to take a moment to thank the community here for the changes I've made over the last year.

My journey began as a junior in college having just read Neil Strauss' 'The Game'. It was at a time in my life where the presence of women in my life was at an all time low, especially considering the plethora of attractive women that attended the university I went to. I found myself lacking confidence (although I didn't realize it at the time), and chasing away any woman that entered my life die to oneitis, and even questioning my own sexuality at times because I couldn't seem to attract and captivate women like my peers seemed to do so easily. This pursuit of 'game' led to me finding myself doing things I didn't really like doing to impress people I really didn't like in the first place. The Game led me to read many various PUA materials like Mystery Method and scour internet forums looking for advice on how to become sharp like a needle. In hindsight, this was extremely counterproductive as I became an armchair PUA - I 'knew it all' without ever putting any of it into practice.

Then I graduated and moved to a new city.

It was quite possibly the worst and best thing I could have done. My first year in this city was spent alone with small bouts of depression. I spent many nights playing xbox because the idea of going somewhere by myself was absolutely terrifying and the social anxiety I felt in a bar with no one I personally knew was just way too much of a weight to bear. It was around this time I began to read seddit. What I love about this community is that it focuses on self-improvement as a foundation for attracting women. Something I direly needed.

I started to take initiative to take back control of my life. Do the things I wanted to do because I truly wanted to do them. A lot of it involved doing things alone but at the end of the day it didn't matter because I enjoyed it. Eventually I met people that shared those interests and while everyone you meet isn't going to become a close friend, it helped because I became a familiar face at the places I frequented. I started to feel much more comfortable with myself and my surroundings and it eventually translated into confidence. Suddenly I found myself more interested in the people around me because I hit a point where I knew the things I did were interesting and didn't need to show it off. In hindsight it seemed like the more I kept the spotlight on myself the more I pushed people away but when I kept it focused on those around me I would find the spotlight back on me.

Some the biggest lessons I took away from seddit are:

  • Be Honest
  • Be Genuine
  • Be a Value Giver
  • Have fun

Fast forward to today and I had a date last night and another one with a different girl tonight as well as a FWB with an ex-gf of mine (who I feel dated me because I was the nice guy that was a shoulder to cry on but now is even more attracted to me because I've been acquiring awesomeness). Last night we played 20 questions over dinner and one of her questions was, "Will I ever see you again? I really hope so." That felt like I accomplished a huge milestone because I had a girl that invited me out to dinner and wanted to see me again - something that had never happened in the past. So, here I am - a new and improved Sodapopp and the community really helped me.

Thank you.