The Difference Between the actual person and the person you think you know

rassiamelo · 2018-09-14T22:03:19+00:00

Sounds like she's even better in reality

bemore_ · 2018-09-15T06:59:21+00:00

Yes this is correct. It's impossible to tell who someone is by looking at them but this is what we train ourselves with social media and television. It takes a bit of time to understand someone, their dreams and motivations, their fears and struggles. This is what the mating/dating dance is all about. Instead humans today interact with concepts in their head, of what people are supposed to be in their head, based on how they present themselves

There's a few perspectives on this because equally there are people that feign their rank but haven't acquired the level of skill to navigate that position or haven't worked for that vision of themselves, so they are essentially just a poor imitation of the thing. Yet you cannot tell with the eye's alone, you have to "see" them after a bit of time

More to your point, imagine how people treat her that don't know her, and that is the average attractive woman. I see it mostly with my sister, she's attractive enough that guys would seriously provide for her, paying for everything she needs. Like these guys buy her the newest cellphones, sneakers, pay for all transport, food etc. They do all of this because they don't know her, I know who she is. As sweet as her heart is, she is quite average and more than anything that a man can buy her, she needs a man to support her mentally.. and this is free. She needs a man that can encourages her, that wants to see her best. That's about it, not money, not looks, not even game

I think of all of this in spiritual terms, it makes it clearer to speak about. The word that best describes it is the one you use, "separate". When we fail to cut through the mind an illusion of separateness is created. Those thoughts, "she wouldn't want to date me/she probably has a hotter boyfriend/she must be the type of girl who x", and then we are separate. Truth is though we are the same and are made for each other

recyclablebanthas · 2018-09-15T07:26:45+00:00

Couple things about this post:

There are some guys in here with the whole Sky is Falling attitude, like this is the end of the world, that someone posted about inner game. I shouldn't have to explain the importance of inner game.
This post offers good antidotes to the common inner game problems that newbs create for themselves when they build up a girl or otherwise put her on a pedestal.
It does not offer much in the way of outer game. So anyone whining about this could have posted something to supplement this post, instead of acting like it's the end of the world.
No post is going to be perfect. Many of the best outer game posts here have been misunderstood to be advocating some of really SHITTY inner game and core values. No one was crying that sky was falling then, and it's not really falling now.
If you want more Outer Game stuff, there's plenty of it out there and nothing is stopping you from posting something either, provided it doesn't break the posting rules in the sidebar.

One_Insanity · 2018-09-15T11:22:24+00:00

Sounds like Andreboiiiiiiiiii and some other fools want to read about dudes smashing girls because they ran out of jerking material.

OT: This is basic psychology. We will always have an incomplete picture about people. Even people we know. Since we can't be running variables and store every single one in our brain like we're a computer, we simplify things.

We simplify them through associations like "Hot girl must be X". You can get specific "Hot brunette that wears X Y or Z and walks a certain way must be X".

What we think about people is filtered through ourselves. Our feelings, our opinions, our moral compass and all that stuff.

The point is to realize why we think certain things about people. If say, you think all hot girls are arrogant sluts that only bang Chads. The important thing is to retrace the steps and find where this comes from. Usually it's just you getting intimidated by her hotness and thus you need to devalue her by making her a dirty and unpleasant thing. Because then you can say it's her and not you that's the problem.

But also realize that every generalization still has truth in it. Just like a joke. You like a joke or dislike a joke, unconsciously even, based on whether you agree with what it says.

A hot girl will bang a Chad because he's confident, good looking, high status and has a big dick. And it makes sense in more ways than one.

But yeah that'd be an entirely different branch for this discussion.

Andreboy · 2018-09-15T01:12:35+00:00

What is happening to this sub

Title	The Difference Between the actual person and the person you think you know
Author	MaldororHollow
Upvotes	50
Comments	14
Date	September 14, 2018 10:01 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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