I'd like to invite you to spend a minute or two to think: What is my intention when approaching women?

... I could be looking for a long-term partner

... Maybe I'm looking for a friends with benefits type situation

... I'm just looking for a quick fuck

Here's the key - ALL answers are valid. The value comes from the clarity of knowing what you are looking for.

Women are generally much more sensitive to vibes - and if you have unclear or muddled intentions, they will pick up on that right away. The quality of the interaction will suffer, they won't trust you as easily, and you'll have to "work" even harder to make her feel comfortable.

 

Having a crystal clear intention is a powerful tool - it almost acts as an automatic filter that helps you meet women that are aligned with your intention. If you give off the vibe you are just looking for something fun and physical (totally fine), and the girl you're interacting with is not interested in that, then the interaction will tend to cease without you wasting much time. Great. If you DO meet a girl that's aligned with your intention, then bingo, things will go much more smoothly.

In the dating space, things can become confusing. We are often pulled to and fro by our emotions, by our lust, by our fantasies of who the other person is. It can often make things confusing or unclear when things start to get romantic with women. You start questioning things.

... "She's hot, I'd like to fuck her, but I don't enjoy spending time with her..".

... "I can tell she's not looking for anything serious. Having sex is fun, but is that what I want right now?"

... "She's into me, but I want to keep it casual. Am I misleading her?"

Having a clear intention will help you cut through these confusing situations. It acts as an anchor point that will bring you clarity and keep you aligned.

 

So, what is your intention with women? If you haven't figured it out yet, you have some thinking and feeling to do. Anything is good, but in my experience, the more fleshed out - the better.

To make it more powerful - make it real. Say it out loud. "My intention with women is to ..." Or even better, also post it in this thread. I'll post mine down below. Being seen and acknowledged by others carries a lot of value.