The semi hermit guide to seduction

ThrowawayPUA · 2013-06-03T02:39:40+00:00

Everyone on [1] /r/seduction advocates to talk to girls only as you go about your day or only when it's socially acceptable otherwise don't cold approach.

Only only only.

I never heard any such advice. The times when you think it's socially unacceptable to approach, that's only in your head.

You don't have to do things you don't like. You don't have to be anything other than what you are. We call that congruence. But we do advise people to find ways to express their good qualities in ways that connect with women. For example, boldly approaching a woman in what you think is a "socially unacceptible" circumstance could be interpreted by a woman as confidence. You have to approach a woman before you'll ever get a chance to connect with her.

Kappio · 2013-06-03T03:00:35+00:00

I don't know why some people are being hostile. He thinks that it's not worth it to change some aspects of his life just because it would mean more girls. It's totally ok as long as you are happy and enjoy your life.

ServingSize · 2013-06-03T04:52:32+00:00

My suggestion: Don't be so hard on yourself. You simply discount that you can never be "pick up guru." Style, Mystery, and others would have told you the same about themselves before it clicked.

hurennn · 2013-06-03T06:10:02+00:00

I literally have no idea what anyone in this thread is talking about. Cold approach is perfectly acceptable given you approach in a way that isn't "hey im steven and i would like to fuck you"

this is standard textbook game. approach with ulterior motive, build value, escalate. do this in public setting and talk about surroundings. is this everyone's first day or something?

BillionBeast · 2013-06-03T08:32:22+00:00

I like this post. Never lose your identity in the process. Whatever makes you YOU is always gonna be anyone's best feature and will inevitably get you closer to being with the person you wanna stay with. Ever since I wanted to get out there more I started reading more about this subject, then working out, getting good haircuts, dressing well, and tanning a little bit (I live at the beach so it's not too difficult). I hit the bar scene up looking as good as I can but if some random person came up and started talking about anime... The nerd in me would join that convo in a heartbeat regardless of how it made me sound or appear. That's who I am and as long as I was enjoying myself... fuck it. Whether it's anime or movies or music or whatever... never lose those things that make you YOU. Being genuine is its own reward.

HeroPUA · 2013-06-03T02:42:49+00:00

So are there any PUA strategies for the semi hermit? Maybe read books by Roosh V?

chillmonkey88 · 2013-06-03T12:32:00+00:00

I disagree with your opinion on leading a life of a hermit... however I upvoted you because... I AM YOU... however I changed... I don't want to be a pua that gets supermodels and can get 100 notches... however I'm sick of being alone, cold at night, depressed and watching every girl I want friend zone me and not be able to climb out of the abyss as I watch them date some lame-o-d-bag... all in all I don't want you to feel that way in 5-10 years either... if your happy, that's great do what makes you happy but I think people like you need to open there eyes and see that this isn't a place for people to just brag and give FR, its a place to learn and see some better things in life and enjoy that chance you might take to find Ms. Right! good luck to you sir

Erikthenomad · 2013-06-03T09:03:50+00:00

Approach any girls you think is somewhat attractive at anytime when you are out doing things you enjoy. I like going out with friends to bars. So I do that, I have friends that rock climb, so they do that. I'm not really sure what your days look like but human interaction is an important part of life. A few years ago I used to play video games 4-6 hours a day and was an introvert. Never really went out. I realized video games were negatively affecting me and sold my xbox and started talking to more people. Best decision ever. I have way more time to develop other skills like music and training and now I would consider myself a half introvert! You don't have to be a mega extrovert to get girls, you just need to be abe to express yourself and be comfortable in social environments, and this happens when you put yourself into uncomfortable situations. You might also be confusing living the life you want with what you are comfortable with.

Mooninites7 · 2013-06-03T18:47:32+00:00

A famous musician, Elliott Smith, once said (paraphrasing) ' its really compelling to see a musician who likes the music he plays. If you like your music then there must be something good about it because you like it, and other people will like it too'. I think the same thing can apply here. Girls like social, outgoing guys, but if that's not you then theres no point to fake it. I know plenty of girls who don't like going to parties and rather sit back on a couch and watch movies, but feel like they have to go to parties to meet guys. They like the laid back type of guy, and if your comfortable being a more introverted type of person then you are bound to attract people even if it is contrary to introverted type

usefulbuns · 2013-06-03T07:39:21+00:00

I am like this as well! I have a few very close knit friends and when I go out with them we usually just get food or drinks and then go chill at a park or go watch a movie at the theater.

I can't find any girls with a similar personality to me and it's disturbing. I would like a girlfriend, but it's not something I get upset over. I am happy single but damn a girlfriend would be nice!

silveridea · 2013-06-03T02:28:21+00:00

Thanks bro, for the reminder.

Methaxetamine · 2013-06-03T14:18:15+00:00

My style:

Jack off to porn. Play on computer. Have girlfriend that calls me a loser.

She breaks up with me, I make a shit ton of online profiles, some girls hit me up. I hook up with them.

Next phase: meet their friends. I partied with this girl and her friends. Holy shit that was fun!

Only works if you are attractive.

Title	The semi hermit guide to seduction
Author	videogames_
Upvotes	67
Comments	41
Date	June 3, 2013 2:01 AM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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