I work remote I live in a country far from my family and friends I have 0 community, 1 proper friend in the city am living

Hinge is the only way I meet people since am not a huge fun of clubbing so knowing to text is important as a form of communication.

I know am not the only one. Hell that’s why the “male loneliness” epidemic is a thing in the first place and kids end up looking up to those goofy alpha male bros online in the first place. It’s always so damn easy when you have a community.

Am thankful am not BOTH ugly and lonely cause god forbid being both. At least am getting plenty of matches. But I can’t text (or too be honest can’t be bothered most times)

Scenario 1: I start a basic conversation asking her where she is from. Ends up always getting dry and boring. She either stops responding or I do cause now we find each other boring.

Scenario 2: I ask her out as a first message (mostly do it because I can’t be bothered to text) 50% they accept and flake later. I got a few dates this way but tbh 17 dates after 1000 matches in a year is not a good ratio.

I wish there was a guide for us who suck at flirting through text. Most online advice is outdated from a different era of online dating and texting.

I remember when I was younger and joined online dating for the first time, I was full of “good” intention and was willing to put the effort. Now however, am soo burned out that am not willing to put any effort. Which is a paradox cause that makes me less likely to date my matches even more, since most women want to see a guy putting at least a bit effort and charming them. (Btw in person I put effort)

Thanks for reading, sorry if I come as degenerate.

What’s your best texting tips