Thoughts on Porn / Masturbation?

Murmaider · 2012-05-11T19:28:40+00:00

As a personal opinion, i find masturbation to be pretty destructive. It kills your drive to game. Porn has its pros and cons. A pro - It gives you ideas for sex positions, and various other tips (lesbians eat a mean pussy!). A con - It can desensitize you to sexual involvement with your partner, e.g head is okay, but now you want more. you want her to deep throat...and so on.

notlurkinganymoar · 2012-05-11T21:05:41+00:00

My observation of no fap for about a month or more is that I am a lot more motivated to get laid and find my interaction with women are much better. Plus, when I am actually fucking I want to go again and again which pleases the ladies. I like my ladies pleased. Plus, I like the idea of having control over my desires. All-in-all, I'd say it's worth a shot.

legendofpasta · 2012-05-11T23:50:48+00:00

No fap starting on like Wednesday and come Friday/Saturday sarging you'll be in a sexual state and more likely to approach and be successful

delacook · 2012-05-12T01:05:13+00:00

I'm happy to say as a 17 year old that I have never looked at porn. I believe it has been great for me

baaaark · 2012-05-11T18:28:56+00:00

I see no harm with masturbation, but porn kind of sets you up to be disappointed with the real thing. Like sex can be that hot, but it can also not be that hot pretty easily too. I know for me whenever I watch a lot of porn I kind of become desensitized to how sexy the woman I'm with is, even during sex.

Either go nofap, or try only fapping to your imagination which is what I try to do. It really does make a difference.

nycprowl · 2012-05-12T05:00:57+00:00

Oh Lordy Lawd! Porn and masturbation will destroy the children, and ruin YOUR LIFE! STAY AWAY!

Seriously though, unless you have some uncontrollable addiction, i don't think it's a bad thing. People say it hurts your game and kills your drive, which may be true, but honestly I think restraining just lowers people's standards.

They are now trying to "game" the girl they would otherwise have no attraction to, and many are now fucking anything with legs.

Like everything else in life, moderation is key. If you find yourself looking at porn 6 times a day and it's interfering with your life, then yeah, you have a problem. Otherwise, to each their own.

I do have a few problems with the science of nofap. They claim that testosterone levels peak after a week of not ejaculating, but the human body needs to do this. If you don't find means to do it, your body will for you (in the form of wet dreams). How this "release" doesn't affect your "levels" is beyond me.

TofuTofu · 2012-05-12T13:09:18+00:00

NoFap is a placebo, but whatever does it for ya!

2012-05-12T04:59:03+00:00

For me I find that not fapping makes you want sex more and thus more "outgoing." If I fap before I go out I become more laid back which can be fine in and of itself but a lot of sets I get presented with receive apathy because my drive isn't as hard.

jimmy_changa · 2012-05-12T11:29:52+00:00

Not fapping really does wonders for me within about 1-2 weeks, as I find that I'm obviously hornier and overall more energetic. But if nothing's happening after 3 weeks or so, then it starts to become a problem as my mood goes from flirty to desperate. I can feel it myself, and I'm sure the women I talk to also can sense it since that's when my luck starts going downhill. I'm not inclined to think that's a bad thing, I think I just need to act sooner.

As long as you use it, rather than letting it use you, then you should be fine.

NotModded · 2012-05-12T12:53:20+00:00

I didn't like why I was fapping, so I quit a month or so ago.

Basically, I was doing it as a means of procrastination and distraction (coping?). I also noticed that I was getting into more and more aggressive porn, which is REALLY different from my actual interests and personality.

I think that there's healthy fapping and unhealthy. Mine was the latter, so I've quit for a while. I generally feel better and more interested in finding an actual human to interact with. I think I feel more relaxed with my desire for intimate relationships. Sex doesn't feel so much like something I should be ashamed of pursuing.

I'm not a PUA, far more of an AFC despite knowing better, but I feel generally like I'm on the right track mentally.

wanking_the_monkey · 2012-05-13T08:31:04+00:00

Quit it all. Porn fucks with your expectations of women. Masturbation lowers testosterone and reduces your drive to go out. Fuck everything. I'm on day 30 of my 90 day challenge and it feels great. Realizing I have "porn-induced ED" scared the shit out of me so i'm out of the game for life.

ThrowawayPUA · 2012-05-11T18:58:54+00:00

nofap is a submissive sexual fetish called orgasm denial. It's for guys who want to lock up their cock and give the only key to women.

Title	Thoughts on Porn / Masturbation?
Author	seduction_seduce
Upvotes	11
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Date	May 11, 2012 6:12 PM UTC (14 years ago)
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