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[–]streetMD 11 points12 points13 points 7 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Perhaps she isn’t a fan of dudes that drink 5 shots before a date. I’ve done it fo sho. Not trying to hate. But some chics don’t dig it. Plus her car probably smelled like booze.
[–]TreGullyBanks 3 points4 points5 points 7 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
In my head I thought I appeared to be 100% sober the entire time but I think you may be right. Now that I'm thinking back on that night I think it was clear I had been drinking. I actually had more than 5 shots. Shit I fucked up. Oh well.
[–]poopfeast180 3 points4 points5 points 7 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
You can't be sober if you drank alcohol.
[–]TreGullyBanks -1 points0 points1 point 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
In my mind I was sober.
[–]poopfeast180 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah but like you should realize if you take even one serving of alcohol that means you're not sober. You might be able to control yourself more than say 10 shots of alcohol sure.
And it's very easy to smell it.
[–]streetMD 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
No worries man. I bombed much worse, ha. All we can do it get after it next time!
[–]Manners2210 10 points11 points12 points 7 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Might not be the height. Ppl don’t like each other on dates for various reasons. Sometimes I’m just not feeling it, because...I’m just not feeling it. That’s life. Delete block, next
[–]TreGullyBanks 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I get that, I'm just more confused at how explicit and open we were the days prior and then it just was a complete 180 after that. She told me she had a very rare sickness, her goals in life, etc on top of sending nudes. She even offered me here number. She set the date up as well! That's a lot. Especially since most of my Tinder convos don't go past "where you from" "how are you" blah blah.
[–]Manners2210 5 points6 points7 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Again, none of that matters a damn if you haven’t met yet. Before you meet, to a degree, you’re an illusion. personality, chemistry all that only fully manifests in person.I been on both sides of that. It happens. You just gotta forget it.
[–]TreGullyBanks 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Makes sense. I have no problem with getting matches but the Jedi mind tricks that comes with using this app. is exhausting Would rather much get shot down the old fashioned way.
[–]Kenic_In_MD 3 points4 points5 points 7 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Shot in the dark but...if she was sending you nudes and giving you great IOIs, why were you wasting your time with a date? Invite her over to your place, prone bone. Get back on tinder.
I don't think it was about height, she sensed that you wanted commitment and it scared her off. She felt those needy vibes and bailed.
[–]TreGullyBanks 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
You think I wasn't trying to do that? Commitment was the last thing I was looking for. She still lived at home with her parent and is still in school. She literally had 0 to offer besides..... ya know.
[–]Kenic_In_MD 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Maybe you did, but the vibe she got was neediness. As you have said you talked to her for days and did all this personal convo and facetime. Thats what a BF does, you aren't that
[–]TreGullyBanks 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Dude I wasn't being needy, she was opening up to me and I just listened. I wasn't looking to be her bf, I don't go on Tinder looking for love and companionship.
[–]Kenic_In_MD 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Didn't say you were being needy, just saying that maybe the vibe was perceived as that. Perception and reality are usually vastly different. View things from her perspective.
[–]TreGullyBanks 2 points3 points4 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I seriosuly appreciate your effort to help me out here but I don't think that's it man. After further investigatio I'm 95% sure it was because I decided to get somewhat hammered before meeting them.
[–]Kenic_In_MD 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Ok cool, dang yea you may be right.
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[–]TreGullyBanks 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
I have no idea what it's about then, at least on my end. Honestly I did nothing that could be considered a "red flag", I played it cool. Maybe she matched with someone else who knows.
[–][deleted] 7 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
[–]TreGullyBanks 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
The problem is I don't know he she's feeling, it was never communicated. I just was blocked. The point I'm making is that I don't understand, I'm not looking to point the blame. I genuinely want an understanding of the situation.
[–][deleted] 7 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
[–]TreGullyBanks 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
You’re just concisely saying what I already said. I’m just looking for a “why”. Which no one can answer be her obviously. I’m just trying to see if this is normal seeing that I’m new to this Tinder thing.
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[–]TreGullyBanks 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Lmao damn
[–]MissBJJ 2 points3 points4 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Alcohol on your breath for a cookie run with her sister is a bad sign. I wouldn’t have gone out with you again.
Yeah I know
[–]drewbarrymore69x 2 points3 points4 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
So before they arrive I take like 5 shots
lmao smh
[–][deleted] 7 years ago* (4 children) | Copy Link
Probably, I'm sure they also smelled the alchohol on my breath now that I think about it.
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[–]TreGullyBanks 4 points5 points6 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Yeah I completely overestimated my tolerance and was just throwing shots back to quickly get a buzz before they arrived. They weren't even spaced out shots. Now that I think about it I was technically the only adult in the car. I'm 22, she's 20 and her sister is 19. I'm sure I came off as a weirdo drunkard the moment they realized I had been drinking. But i'm not, lol I was just trying to ease my nerves.
oh well.
[–]Xis4sarcasm 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If she hasn’t blocked you on tinder yet then you could consider asking for feedback
Edit: nevrmind
[–]BigDickEnergy123 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You didn't make a move
[–]r3dtail 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Also: you could go back through the night and ask yourself if you failed to escalate.
I have done this recently and she ghosted me when in hindsight all she wanted was for me to be bold.
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