Tips on hosting a party?

Jarikk · 2014-08-09T18:15:29+00:00

Remember to join in on the fun. Don't get caught up on the small things, people can sense it and it'll ruin the mood.

bl1y · 2014-08-09T19:16:48+00:00

Relax, have fun, don't get the cops called on you. Don't crank your music up like an asshole, people want to be able to talk and you're going to get the cops called if everyone is shouting over the music.

Make sure the food is the sort that will keep people from getting drunk. If it takes two hands to eat, people won't eat it (they'd have to put down their beer). If it's a bunch of chips and pretzels they'll just end up drinking more. NYU Law school had a party one year where the food was mostly wings and chips and multiple students ended up in the hospital.

Have lots of ice.

Shuiyori · 2014-08-09T19:54:31+00:00

●It helps calm the nerves if you have close friends get there early

●have fun ppl over and it will be fun --my first party ( this year) had some party poopera but over shadowed by all the great ppl that were there

● most of all, enjoy yourself and ppl will want to come again :D

That wad just off the top of my head but good luck!

jack_skellington · 2014-08-09T20:06:48+00:00

Here's something I learned late in life that really surprised me.

I was dating a girl after having just ended an 18 year marriage. My new girl was much younger, into gaming and very kinky parties (not orgies or anything, but if she hosted a party and 3 girls ended up topless and making out, well, that was pretty normal for her).

So, she invites maybe 100 people to my house for an all-day gaming party, no real start or finish time. People will constantly churn in & out. There is a large TV with 4 Nintendo controllers. There is a huge table with a complicated board game. There is a fold-up card table for... cards. And my pool for the "her friends will get naked" part.

So, I'm new to big parties like this, and I don't like that there are multiple places for entertainment. I mean, how do I host them all? Do I run from table to table? Do I "work the room?" I wasn't sure. My girlfriend laughs and says, "Who cares? They come to my party, they know to manage themselves. I'm sitting down at a game and playing."

And then she did. And it flipped me out. I was like, "Who answers the door, then?!?!?" I was a fucking noob.

Anyway, here's the outcome. By the end of the party, I knew two things.

She was right. If you overthink things or try to do too much, people pick up on your anxiety or nervous energy, and it weirds the party out. Her just sitting there, playing, looking over her shoulder when someone arrived and saying, "Glad you're here!" was all she needed to do to make everyone think, "Oh yeah, this party is already working well and everyone's comfy. Cool."
She was wrong. By the end of the party, a handful of her friends had approached me and said, "Well, this sucked -- no organization, nobody playing host very well, I think I'm leaving early."

So I learned that during a party, you as the host need to settle in and enjoy your friends, but you also need to check in with them, keep shit running smoothly. Delegate if you have to. If you get into a game of beer pong and there's no beer, you tell someone watching, "Go in and get xxxx from the kitchen." If you have been making out with someone for 15 minutes, you grab 'em up, keep your arm around them, and walk around the party with both of you playing host. Get people drinks, clean up a bit, find someone flying solo and introduce them to someone with similar interests, etc.

Get involved in your own party and have fun, but check in enough to be sure that others are OK too.

yashybashy · 2014-08-09T19:17:07+00:00

Don't worry about a thing. Be cool and calm, don't be afraid to make a few jokes! Your main job as a host is to make sure people are comfortable in your home. This also means being comfortable yourself.

Try to connect with every single guest throughout the night, i.e don't just hang with a few of your close buddies the whole night.

People you don't know? Wonderful! Break the ice by introducing yourself, and learn a few things about them. Make them feel that you accept them as a guest in your home. Try to avoid being labeled as the 'host', and just blend in with the party! This means that your introduction to new people should not be "Hey my name is Tim and I own this house", needless to say. Everyone probably knows you are the host, and be modest about it.

Also, be the one to start up the activities and get things rolling. (Hey, who is going to take me on in beer pong??) This is the hardest part of hosting a party in my opinion... Getting the party going. But once its going, its gone! Be enthusiastic and laid back, and people will follow !

Hope you have a great party and goodluck!

CynicClinic1 · 2014-08-09T20:14:14+00:00

I'm reposting my response to a similar thread:

Tips to throwing a successful 50 person party:
-The main idea is to keep people talking. You're going to want to come up with solutions to the "What will they do once they get here." problem to avoid silence, awkwardness, or a weird just the dudes talk on one side and just the girls talk on the other situation.
-Beer Pong is your bread and butter. Keep games moving quickly, get people shit talking one another. It's fun, it's flirty.
-Kings, other drinking card games, look 'em up. Print the rules and post them. Feel free to change the rules or straight up make some up.
-NEVER run out of alcohol. Have a stocked bar, and as the host you can be the guy who knows how to make some drinks these kids haven't had before.
-I'm gonna tell you right now if you're DJ/dance floor falls flat and nobody goes for it, don't push it. Keep the music loud all night and whatever happens, happens. I usually take the initiative and just start dancing really stupidly for about 2 minutes and see the girls at the party follow suit. If the dancing/club atmosphere does go off, it'll go all night and make your job as the host much easier. Nobody who dances all night says they were at a shitty party.
-Tell everyone to dress nice for the party in your texts or calls or whatever. If the dudes are fashionably incompetent just say, "Nice shirt, nice shoes." It gets everyone in the mood to put their best foot forward and try to make a good impression.
-As the host, don't be the drunkest. That's a recipe for disaster. If there's even a chance of that happening, take a drink offered to you and gift it to someone else.
-People who you don't know who show up. Introduce yourself by name and make it clear that you are the host so they're not a dick to you. They'll behave. If you introduce yourself to everyone immediately and make a good 30 second impression, they'll also all get behind you if you have to kick anyone out.
-Keep your bathroom(s) spotless. Someone's sleeping there.

ThePUA_Baddie · 2014-08-09T20:26:35+00:00

See if the type of people coming would be down for a game that involves touch. This is so so key. If they are down to earth people there's a good chance that they'll be up for it. I remember one party I went to in high school we all played a game where everyone picks a card and a random chosen person beforehand doesn't get a card, instead they get to pick out two random numbers and then tell those two people to do something. A fuckton of things ended up happening, people swapping clothes (most lulz), funny stunts, sexual dances. It was pretty fun lol. There were some obvious ground rules (nothing disgusting that'll get you sick) but overall it was fun. This type of game gives the opportunity for a lot of touch and sexual stuff which everyone should be down for or neutral towards because sexual stuff is exciting.

So yeah, think of some fun games that involve touch, no weak shit, have some fun and then come back and write how some girl had to give a guy a blowjob in front of everyone, lol

sevenpotatoes · 2014-08-09T20:27:25+00:00

Have food! Not just alcohol! Enough food :)

sharkacolypse · 2014-08-09T22:30:08+00:00

Make sure you have a good playlist or station or something. Nothing with commercials, it totally kills the mood of the party. Variety is generally good, even if you just randomly skip genres - few people will care (if any). Keep an eye out for vultures who will unplug your iPhone and start their own playlist.

If things are getting slow, start rounding up people to play a large group drinking game like rage cage, King's Cup, Cheers Gov'nor.

If you can, have some open space for dancing.

roachman253 · 2014-08-10T02:26:46+00:00

Most people will entertain themselves if there's music and drinks. So go with the flow and have fun.

bcp1234 · 2014-08-11T00:40:42+00:00

Party in the present, worry in the future. Don't run around cleaning things up until everyone is gone or the party is noticeably dying down.

Harolima · 2014-08-12T17:54:58+00:00

-First of all, I always make sure if I see someone new arriving, I get out of my chair go over to them and give them a handshake/hug and introduce myself. I often do a joke about their handshake (a lot of people have a weak handshake, or "a dead fish" as my old teacher called it. I usually use that line with a smile on my face, gets most people smiling. Ofcourse that only works if you don't have a "dead fish"...)

-Get some of your closer friends over an hour or two before the party actually begins, this way you have some company and when the other people arrive they come to a party which is not completely empty and awkward.

-Don't try to organize it too much, if it gets quiet or no one is drinking make some space on a table and get some people to join in for a drinking card game. If it doesn't get quiet or awkward, just let it be. People is already having a good time don't force them to do anything they don't want.

-Don't be a service person. You are the host so sure, show people where the glasses are or where they can put their drinks. But DON'T run around cleaning up the table, throwing old food or make them drinks (well, if you have the ladies attention I guess you could make them 1 or 2 drinks if you know how to make them).

-As for food, 1 handed food is important. Chips, popcorn, pretzels. Very important not to have anything too big food wise, because then people wont drink.

-If you are outside, make sure you have somewhere for people to put their smoked cigarettes, a already emptied bottle/can with some water in it works great. Less cleaning for you the day after.

-As for music it's always hard. I usually start of playing either some classic rock (kiss, queen, Rush, Dio, whitesnake. whatever) since that is what I listen to normally. Then once my friends or some more people have arrived I tell them that if they don't like the music they can change. Just don't intro-play it (Intro-play=You start a song, play like 30-60sec then change song).

-If someone is a douche, kick him/her out. Don't let someone else ruin your party.

-If someone is puking, don't be the good guy. Tell his/her friends to help him/her, you have a whole party to keep track off.

-Most importantly is probably, have fun. If you don't have fun, no one else will. Just stay calm and don't care so god damn much. Let the alcohol flow and have a great fucking time.

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Date	August 9, 2014 4:54 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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