Transitioning from introvert to extrovert. Question on coming off as boring and creepy

philosarapter · 2015-08-31T20:09:53+00:00

Avoid "interview questions" ("what do you do for a living?", "how do you like it?"). Those questions are boring and don't let you actually get to know the person.

Next when you tell stories, make sure those stories have a point to them, and the point of the story should really be the humourous part that everyone laughs at. Also when telling a story, make sure to emphasize words and get excited about whatever you are talking about.

If you aren't good at thinking of jokes or stories off the top of your head, write down a list of the most exciting or hilarious things you've ever experienced and practice telling these stories with emphasis.

People usually mimic the emotions of those around them, so if you seem like youre bored, they're going to be bored. You need to approach people with high energy, like you love your life and want to share that joy with others.

And as for not being creepy, all you need to do is be able to let her go if/when she rejects you. The creep hangs around and doesn't take no for an answer, the non-creepy man will just let it go and move on to talk to different people. That's all, just dont linger, tell them have to have a nice day and move on with your life. Do this and you'll avoid being 'creepy'.

But mostly its about bringing a positive energy into people's life and improving their mood with a funny story or enlightening experience.

tgma97 · 2015-08-31T17:51:14+00:00

Maintain eye contact with people and smile, it'll make you seem comfortable with that person. Display facial expressions that relate to what your saying. Also, body language: try moving your hands and whatnot while you talk. Since you may come off as timid, try and speak louder than you usually do. Try not to be stiff and don't keep your arms at your side. And since you have an accent, use it as an advantage!

greatslyfer · 2015-08-31T18:39:48+00:00

u cant become extrovert man,don't force something if it's not natural, cause that's not you

AngriestBird · 2015-08-31T22:15:10+00:00

The art of bantering. Google it.

Instead of becoming extroverted, you simply need to project just enough energy to make an interaction fun.

Now as for talking, opening is simple, extend your hand and introduce yourself. They are socially obligated to respond - at least in western countries I think.

If you are running out of things to talk about, yes some men can override that. However, people who naturally have a lot of common interests won't run out of things to talk about.

Psychocist · 2015-09-01T13:07:36+00:00

Give this a read - http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/09/how-to-go-from-introvert-to-extrovert/

mimunto · 2015-09-02T11:29:29+00:00

Your genes define how your body process dopamine and this defines where you lie on the intro-/extrovert scale. You cannot change this and neither should you. Being an introvert is awesome and you should own that shit. People telling you anything different are the mental equivalent of the "pray away the gay" people. Forget about those morons.

An introvert might suffer from social anxiety due to being different from the norm, lack of social experiences or something else. This, however, can be vastly improved using the advice you get in this sub. You can become Mr Awesome in a social setting - you just need to have some time alone (or with people you're completely comfortable with) to recharge afterwards.

Title	Transitioning from introvert to extrovert. Question on coming off as boring and creepy
Author	Yerbafish
Upvotes	9
Comments	45
Date	August 31, 2015 4:13 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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