Understanding attraction

PiperTheGreat · 2016-07-18T01:20:04+00:00

Female attraction is based on emotions in its simplest form. The way you look, how much money you have are logical reasons that latter could be used to either rationalize her liking you or disliking you. Logic is the enemy, that's why it should never be used in seduction.

What also attracts woman is a guy who's fun and challenging. Fun because your giving them the good emotions. Challenging because she has to earn your attraction. Two things woman love.

Third and lastly being high status. High status men can give the greatest amount of value and resources, at least she assumes you can provide. You don't have to be rich or famous to be considered high status. Have you ever walked away from a conversation with a guy and thought "wow that guy probably has a lot of money". It's because he his had high status sub communications Down.

Edit: almost forgot another pretty big attraction trigger. Social proof is huge. Also know as preselection. A woman will judge how attractive you are based on how other woman are responding to you.

Those are the three main triggers for female attraction. Of course there a ton more. Those are just the heavy hitters.

recyclablebanthas · 2016-07-18T08:06:07+00:00

It boggles my mind to why and how women choose their partners.

That's because you're trying to use logic to figure out something that has strongly illogical elements to it.

A pretty big thing on the list of reasons, hasn't been posted yet: emotional baggage. Daddy or mommy issues. Past trauma. All these things contribute heavily to how and why people choose who they do.

People repeat their own emotional history, MOST of the time in their dating life. People feel most comfortable in a situation that reminds them of the past in some emotional way, because they have some issue they're trying to work through.

That scrub the girl is dating, probably reminds her of her father or allows her to replay some unhealthy pattern from her past.

This is why so many people end up being attracted to people who share some commonality. Like guys who always go after unattainable girls. Or people who keep dating cheaters. Or people who keep dating abusive people.

SuperiorSeduction · 2016-07-18T00:24:28+00:00

Attraction is based on offering the opposite sex genetic value. What is genetic value? Masculinity and femininity. This means that the more masucline a male is, the more he'll appeal to feminine women and vice versa.

The reason why this is the case is all based on instinct. Put yourself five thousands years back in time. In the wild, a feminine (more vulnerable) female would need the protection and devotion from a masculine (less vulnerable) male in order to get pregant, give childbirth, and raise the offspring. This is why women are instinctively hardwired to be attracted to masculine males with qualities such as confidence, charm, and responsibility.

At the other hand, we males wouldn't need protection or devotion from a female that much. All that we needed for reproduction would be a healthy, young enough female being able to grow our babies inside of her, yet still old enough to take care of the offspring after childbirth.

This is exactly why men are attracted to sexually mature youthful girls, but why females instead look for more intangible, masculine qualities such as confidence and charm. Therefore, this explains why gorgeous models can be with males who are far from beautiful, popular, or successful.

You see, you can consider the word "attractive" to be a synonym for either masculine or feminine; that is, whether it is a male or female we're speaking of.

Hope this helped.

Woujo · 2016-07-18T05:30:30+00:00

It boggles my mind to why and how women choose their partners. For example in many cases, ive seen women dating men who looks shabby, poorly dressed, have no drive or ambition. Can someone explain to me how this works?

women are fucking people and people like different things.

Contrary to what the PUA community has taught you, women aren't robots that can be fed a series of inputs and automatically fuck you. People are different.

Also people go through a whole host of issues, which makes them choose certain partners and not other ones. Too deep to go into here.

pacg · 2016-07-18T06:50:26+00:00

Quite the variety of answers here. I like seeing shabby guys with women. It means there's someone for everyone practically and if you can't get someone, then take that as a spur to self-reflection and improvement.

For what it's worth, before I got any game, I had girlfriends. Seems many of us did. Problem was feeling like I couldn't upgrade or replace them as easily. Game gave me techniques, confidence, and understanding. Put simply, it gave me options.

bruh_my_jays · 2016-07-18T00:38:14+00:00

For example in many cases, ive seen women dating men who looks shabby, poorly dressed, have no drive or ambition.

This can be accounted for by variations in individual females' value judgements. In every interaction, the participants necessarily demonstrate some sort of value through their behavior. In pick-up, this is called "giving value." The reason why women date men who might not look valuable, is because these men behave as if they have value. Another way to consider this is that these men are giving value to women's lives simply by providing a good time or "positive vibes".

She values his company--or he makes her feel strong emotions, because women tend to base their value judgments on feelings over logic--and therefore makes herself available to him as a potential mate.

rib-bit · 2016-07-18T14:09:10+00:00

you're assuming what you value is what others value...

Title	Understanding attraction
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Date	July 17, 2016 11:12 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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