Please note that there are a few big changes here. You may be directed to this post in the future if you have questions about getting banned for something that used to fly in the past here.
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Rules / Guidelines
The primary focus of Seddit (r/seduction) is the study of human seduction. Mainly, how to integrate specific seduction and self-improvement techniques into our long-term personalities and how to succeed at one's dating goals, whether that's casual sex or a relationship.
While the discussions within Seddit focus primarily on the male seduction of females, most techniques and information referenced may be applied whether or not genders are flipped, etc.
When evaluating if a post is appropriate, the golden rule is to ask yourself: "Does this post help someone get laid or land a relationship?"
Table of Contents 1.) Reddit's Rules 2.) Appropriate Topics 3.) Common Inappropriate Posts 4.) Other Inappropriate posts 5.) Celebrity / Industry AMAs
It falls on all of you to read through Reddit's Rules. Some notable implications of their rules that need to be highlighted:
- Rule 1 - This is basically Seddit's Rule 4: Keep it civil and on topic. It's common sense: Don't harass or bully people. Don't incite violence. AskSeddit was banned, apparently because people were breaking this rule over there. So, expect permanent bans to hit with fewer warnings.
- Rule 4 - This rule means that anyone under the age of 18 can't ask for advice here. I do not know what recourse you have and I am sorry.
Make sure you all read through Reddit's rules in their entirety!
2.) Appropriate Topics
Great field reports focus on the techniques, mindsets and phrases you specifically used that changed the course of the night to being successful. If FR is a failure, then be sure you can point out specifically what would have turned it into a success. A good FR says "This is what I did, and why it worked".
While we appreciate functional Field Reports, often users post what are essentially diaries, giving a rundown of the night without any focus on actual techniques used. For instance:
I went to the starbucks today, and smiled at cashier, but got too nervous to say anything so I just left.
This doesn't do anything to help someone get laid or work towards a relationship. Something better might include some introspection about what exactly you did, particularly after you corrected the mistake and got better results.
Share positive value with the community, this keeps the sub filled with useful material! Remember to add the Field Report flair to your post!
- Links to Articles / Videos
There are tons of great blogs, vlogs, podcast, forums, and articles about seduction, and we love to stay up to date on what is out there in the community. Post these if you find them useful!
But you must include body text in any posts linking to content outside of Reddit. And the same applies to comments!!
Posts or comments consisting only of a series of links, are going to be deleted.
Examples of inappropriate things to link to:
- Prank videos
- Videos focused on goofing around, trolling, humor, etc.
- Videos of friend-zoned guys
- Videos of guys bad at pickup
Remember, the point of linking to something outside of Reddit, is that it is legitimately helpful towards the goal of either seeking casual sex or a relationship.
If you have come up with your own techniques, SHARE THEM!!!. We rely on the community for new approaches and ideas, just make sure they are field tested with at least 20 approaches.
- Asking specific questions or basic questions
While the subreddit can become clogged with questions like "How do I approach" or "How do I kiss someone?", more advanced topics can provide a rich discussion. Examples:
- How do I manage dating multiple people?
- What's the best way to increase my chances of a one night stand?
- Best way to arrange a threesome?
- Struggling with a specific aspect of inner-game
3.) Common Inappropriate Posts
Things like:
- How do I approach
- How do I get a number
- I'm in college, how do I talk to girls/boys
- How to kiss someone
There have been plenty of posts on Why Looks Don't Matter. But this is oversimplifying the matter.
The truth is, looks are just part of the picture. So they matter, but other things do, too. *Game" can compensate for looks if one has the social skills and hasn't given up.
And at the end of the day, seduction is a form of social interaction and physical appearance is not a social skill.* If you have good looks but no game, you lose. If you have good game without the best looks, you can still get a good result.
- Will this work for me? I'm depressed and/or awkward
Short answer: YES!!!
Many of the guys that have transformed their lives started as some of the most awkward, hard case, forever alone people you have ever met.
Note: this subreddit is not a substitute for therapy, which is one of the most underrated tools available to combat depression, anxiety, etc. If you haven't tried this, it's worth a try, especially methods like group therapy or cognitive behavioral therapy.
Study the sidebar and Seddit history as best you can, and if you are struggling after 3 months of serious work, then you can post about what specifically isn't working. Don't make a post until you've put in the foundational reading and work in.
And again, if it's a basic question, post at /r/askseddit.
Any calls for specific situational advice with a specific female should be directed to r/askSeddit
It exists to give you a place where sedditors can answer your questions without bogging down the frontpage of r/seduction
(While we used to have a venue for these kinds of specific questions, AskSeddit was taken down without notice. We may have to re-establish a Basic Questions thread but that will have to wait for now.)
The problem with specific topics is they are specific to YOUR situation, while broad pickup topics are applicable to EVERY guys situation. We have about 736k subscribers, and the focus of this sub is to help everyone.
- Rage Comics / Failure links
In short, things like rage comics, stuff about forever alone guys or friend-zoned losers are not appropriate, and will be deleted. Simply making fun of the community or guys that aren't good with women does nothing to HELP guys with women.
- Advertisement or Solicitations
Seddit is not an advertisement forum. Soliciting for, or advertising products and/or services, is not allowed here. And any information posted should be aimed at helping progress our member's abilities in the arts of seduction. A specific reason why the link is helpful to sedditors should be accompanied in the post or in a comment.
Links should be made to actual content, rather than advertising a book or promoting a website's homepage. Any blatant advertisement of products that cost money without prior approval from moderators can be met with deletion.
4.) Other Inappropriate Topics
This is not the venue for:
- Debates about:
- Whether looks matter or not
- Vaccines
- Nofap
- Pseudoscience
- Any topic that would require wading through research papers to have a productive, informed conversation.
- Conspiracy topics
- Posts or comments that boil down to arguing over semantics.
- Arguing that the friend-zone doesn't exist
- Arguing for a new definition of a word that's already defined in the dictionary.
- Shit-posting, rants, or circlejerk posts
- Attacking (flaming) any member will get either a warning or a ban at the moderators discretion.
- Calling any member a rapist, insinuating anything negative about their character because they practice seduction, or just plain name calling are all forbidden.
- The "don't ask a fish" argument is tired. If you have a point about someone's bad advice, debunk the bad advice on its own merits.
- Policing what dating goals a person should have is also out of bounds.
- Judging whether or not people should want a relationship or not.
- Judging whether or not people should go after someone who is taken or not.
- Judging people according to your sense of morality in general, or slut-shaming specifically.
- If you think a comment isn't helpful or breaks the rules, then report it to the moderators. Do not engage with the person posting or commenting.
5.) Celebrity / Industry AMAs
Please contact and schedule these through moderators. We maintain a numbered list of Official AMA's, and for inclusion you must schedule with moderators.
Furthermore, AMAs are often the source of flaming and attacks from hostile subreddits, so we schedule moderators to be online for the AMA to control these. If these are not scheduled through the mod team and these attacks occur, the entire thread might get removed.
All AMA's must follow the Reddit standard:
- Questions are answered in real time, not hours later. Make the AMA when you will be at the keyboard.
- Questions must be answered on Reddit, in the thread. Not YouTube, not on a blog.
- Be prepared to answer any question, not just commercial ones.
Happy hunting!
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