What am I doing wrong?

Fuzzy-Bottle-4138 · 2024-02-29T21:01:19+00:00

Stop texting girls. Put your phone down and go out into the world and interact with humans in real life.

DaygameCode · 2024-02-29T22:31:57+00:00

What am I doing wrong? I have a pretty bad social anxiety and not a lot of social skills

Well, sounds like you are beginning to answer your own question already.

After I answered she started writing 2-3 word response and at the end left me on read.

Well, you are not actually telling us the exact things you were telling her or provide any screenshots of the full conversations, so we can only guess.

And based on guys who are similar to you, the most likely thing is that you are probably asking questions, being generic, predictable, formal, not really showcasing your personality in a distinct way that differentiates you from other guys, and not making her feel anything in particular, basically boring her by saying boring things.

Cannot tell you which specific things you said bore her because you haven’t show the screenshots.

If you don’t can’t get laid with women, you shouldn’t use texting to practice, because it’s harder. You should practice in real life by approaching random girls face to face in social circles which is easier. Texting is not for “inexperienced people” it’s for people who are already good at meeting women in real life.

Clear_Perception_481 · 2024-02-29T22:12:14+00:00

Talk about something that really interest you, something you actually love and enjoy. Something that when you talk about it you get this rush of adrenaline. Women 85% of the time don’t really gaf what a guy is talking about, they will say they do but it is all bullshit. The only thing women truly care about is gossip, and they do a lot of that with their friends. You’re only around for pleasure and for them to gossip with their girls about.

Clear_Perception_481 · 2024-02-29T22:16:51+00:00

Also you need to focus on having truthful conversations with females. What do most guys want, I tell you 99% of our time is trying to figure how all this will lead to sex. So when your trying to make up shit to talk about it’s hard, but if you were getting straight to what you want then the conversation would be easier.

AnthonyPillarella · 2024-02-29T22:51:53+00:00

This is a really interesting question.

And because I'm old, I actually started out talking to girls in chat rooms in middle school. So I think I can help.

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Texting with strangers like this feels a lot safer. You don't know them, they don't know anyone you know, so you don't have to be as anxious or worried about embarrassing yourself.

But it's a lot harder to keep someone interested.

The words we say are a small part of communication. Body language, voice, etc. have a lot more impact on how we feel about someone. These chats are only words, so it's hard to make a good connection.

Also. a lot of the time people talk to strangers on the internet, it's because they're just in the mood for it. They might not be the next day, especially in the morning.

They can still be helpful, though.

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Read back your chats as if you're the other person. Do you like what you're reading? Does it feel like you?

The most important thing is that you like yourself. That you're someone you'd want to be friends with (or date if you were a woman).

So read it back, celebrate what you did well, and think about what you could do better. Did something read differently than you thought? Are there ways you could have worded something better, jokes you wish you'd made, and so on?

Then keep practicing. You can try more types of jokes and conversation on these things than you would in person.

But expect that you'll have a lot of one-time conversations. That's okay.

When you do follow up with someone, generally don't do it in the morning. Try for about the same time you talked to them the day before.

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I hope this helps, let me know if you need me to clarify anything.

letsgetwizzyy · 2024-03-01T00:24:50+00:00

Stop texting like a platonic friend, be direct, establsh romantic interest, then clsoe.

When you get a girl's number or match with her on a dating app, your objective should be to get her out on a date. You should not be messaging women to build comfort and rapport prior to asking her out, because women do not need comfort and rapport necessary to go on dates with guys. It is not uncommon for women, modern women in western society specifically, to have one night stands with men from bars or to literally hook up with guys in bar bathrooms after talking to them for 10-30 minutes if they perceive them as attractive enough. There's no comfort or rapport being built there. Similarly, it is not needed for dates on dating apps or after getting a girl's number.

Your opening message should literally be asking the woman what her availability is to go on a date, not making naïve small talk to get her more comfortable with you, that's not how this works. The more you text, the more common you appear, and the more boring you are.

Once she gives you her availability, you give her a SET LOCATION AND TIME. You should not be messaging her in the time between the date for a couple reasons. First, you should be busy working on your purpose in life and developing yourself into a high quality man. You literally shouldn't have time to initiate conversation with her randomly throughout the day because you're busy trying to become a badass. Secondly, it's not what women want you to do. Women need to be wondering about you and anticipating when she will hear from you next. When you aren't messaging her daily like other guys, she is wondering why you aren't and starts thinking that you are higher value because there's something different about you, as you aren't texting her stupid stuff like the other guys who attempt to build comfort.

This article goes into more detail about what to do after getting a girl's number: https://open.substack.com/pub/jackedguy/p/what-to-do-after-getting-a-girls?r=31tj3q&utm\_campaign=post&utm\_medium=web

This article details how to convert your matches to dates via dating apps: https://open.substack.com/pub/jackedguy/p/how-to-get-dates-on-dating-apps-a?r=31tj3q&utm\_campaign=post&utm\_medium=web

ROBYoutube · 2024-02-29T21:44:11+00:00

Nothing. You just have extremely under-developed social skills. You're performing to the expected level.

It would help more to be proactive in your own development. Look for commonalities in 'successes' and 'failures', form a hypothesis, test, evaluate, repeat.

TRTGymBro · 2024-03-01T01:12:55+00:00

Anxiety=fear=DNA that women do not want to mix their DNA with.

Frequent-Ad678 · 2024-03-01T02:49:19+00:00

I’d say in general, text with an objective in mind. Ie trying to learn something about her, set up a date, etc etc.

IGetBoredSometimes23 · 2024-03-01T06:31:47+00:00

Close the deal and get a date before the conversation dies.

Title	What am I doing wrong?
Author	MangoGuides
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Date	February 29, 2024 8:59 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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