What are your best methods for maintaining attraction?

d3tuned · 2015-11-19T22:23:37+00:00

Since I don't think the others here actually addressed anything worth while I'll give you my opinion.

This girl has probably moved on, just let it go. Don't bother texting her anymore.. if she texts you first great- if not then just learn from this and move on.

The issue you here is you went too deep, way too fast. Here are some things you listed: texting everyday, 3-hour long phone calls, and 3 dates all in one week.

She probably felt like things were moving too quick before that 3rd date and as a result was distant during it to try to throw you a hint. Texting everyday and the phone calls are honestly what probably killed the attraction here. Texting too much and the phone call thing probably made you seen clingy. Especially all in one week. She probably was a little put off by this and decided to cut ties. It happens, learn from it and move on. This is all purely conjecture based on the info you gave us.

A good way to avoid texting too much in my opinion is snapchat. You can send them a couple of snaps throughout the day so you guys are still making contact but none of that clingy texting shit.

If I'm interested in a girl I'll express interest mostly in person and try to avoid texting too much. This keeps her interested and excited to see you again. Hope some of this helps OP, none of it is meant to be personal. Just my 0.02.

SexySmexxy · 2015-11-19T20:12:21+00:00

Dude you say you had a 3rd date that was shit and now you guys don't talk.

OBVIOUSLY

you didn't just walk away mid date, more went on, including the final exchanges you gave each other etc.

Don't just come here and say, "we went on a date magical poof I teleported home without a word and now days later we haven't spoken.

If you want people to give you advice the least you can do is provide as much useful info as possible.

Sorry to sound like such a prick but we can't read minds.

Relationships like you and that girls (tinder / e-relationships) in general, are fickle and delicate as fuck.

You popped into her life, you can pop right back out again, so if you want detailed information as to where you went wrong, the last you can do is provide some detailed information in the first place.

"We went on three dates and on the 3rd one she was sick/ tired" is borderline taking the piss.

Psychocist · 2015-11-19T23:19:29+00:00

Sounds like you missed an escalation window and let her down after that first date where you apparently swept her off her feet. It was foolish to follow up that date with a chill date where you did nothing but study and have 'intermittent' conversations.. wtf? You're lucky you got a 3rd date.

She asked you out on it? That's even stranger. Was it terrible energy from the beginning or did you yet again let her down by not escalating? Sounds like she put herself out there multiple times and you failed to seduce her so she got bored/felt rejected.

Instant_Bacon · 2015-11-20T00:07:49+00:00

It seems like too much too soon. 3 dates within the first week, and talking on the phone for 3 hours? She is probably overwhelmed and you probably appear needy. What are you guys going to talk about on dates 4-6 the next week?

Space it out, keep her intrigued and wanting to come back for more. You can't give her everything all at once. Keep texting to a minimum. I wouldn't push for more than one date a week that early.

pecky5 · 2015-11-20T01:21:08+00:00

you could wait a week, or two and then send her a random ping text. "we need to talk...I think I'm pregnant" "Just touching base in case you got rich" something super low key that's funny but doesn't really require a massive response, or even any at all. She might respond and you could potentially re escalate from there but it's not very likely, more a last attempt that doesn't require huge effort on your part.

James_Maverick · 2015-11-20T00:12:03+00:00

Don't kill yourself overanalyzing this. I've had about a thousand cases like this.

Just move on and keep going. And, as others have rightfully mentioned in the comments, you need to escalate very quickly or the girl will lose interest.

Smhfd · 2015-11-20T05:46:34+00:00

If she isn't giving you the time of day, then move on because she is probably not wanting to say it to you straight that she doesn't want things to progress.

Llleblanc1986 · 2015-11-20T12:43:03+00:00

Keep flirting with other women/socializing with other people.

gensyms · 2015-11-20T01:33:00+00:00

how do you keep a girl interested in the long run?

Fuck her.

authenticsociallife · 2015-11-19T19:40:39+00:00

Did you physically escalate with her at all in person? Was there any kissing?

Mi5ery · 2015-11-23T12:23:28+00:00

Be interesting. Honest answer

RK0rton · 2015-11-20T04:23:13+00:00

You weren't the prize. You texted her everyday, had 3 hour long phone calls, and went on 3 dates in a week. You showed signs of over investment. You always want to give her slightly less than she gives you. Don't ever talk to her for 3 hours on the phone. You're wasting time that could be used to focus on studying up on your game or other parts of your life. Lastly, if she has negative energy, then be positive. Be stoic and unmoved by her negativity. You're her source of good feelings. When you become negative, you give her negative feelings. Those are a common cause of flaking.

FkinSteve · 2015-11-20T04:27:20+00:00

all about how you carry yourself

Title	What are your best methods for maintaining attraction?
Author	TheGoodDock
Upvotes	48
Comments	36
Date	November 19, 2015 6:44 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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