What to do after getting their attention?

ImmediateSeesaw1556 · 2025-01-17T13:57:29+00:00

Been there, mate. I just usually end the conversation if I don’t see them making any efforts or bringing up something to talk about or if it seems like it’s not mutual. Some women out there expect men to take the first step and the last step too or they’re just not looking for something or are not as into you at the time. One time I started speaking to this amazing woman at a bar and she reciprocated the conversation so well, we dated for a few months and called it off later when I moved to a different state for work.

Prestigious_Water336 · 2025-01-17T14:07:45+00:00

You just gotta make some small talk and then transition to flirting.

You can really talk about anything. Ask how their night is going or if they've seen anything weird or what their plans are for tonight and expand off of that. After you do that there should be more of a reciprocating back and forth. But yes it's the guys job to lead.

Remember to keep it light and flirty. Make them laugh and smile(which you already did) and keep the overall mood relaxed and easy going.

The problem with 2 girls is if you're interested in taking one of them home your going to have to single one out one of them more than the other. I doubt both of them would be down for a threesome. So go after the one that's more receptive to you. If they're both receptive I'd go with the hotter one. If they're both about the same for looks flip a coin or just pick one.

DaygameCode · 2025-01-17T14:55:06+00:00

Ok, here is my personal “manual” step by step:

1 - Opener and setting the playful flirty tone right away. Wanna establish myself as a flirt right away to avoid the small talk and NPC vibe. (You seem tok do this well enough)

2 - Accidental physical touch to break the touch barrier organically. (optional)

3 - Switch from impersonal to personal topics of conversation where i get her to talk about herself so she can show the type of person she is and we also can build a solid connection

This step is where you are stuck based on what you said. This phase is all about getting them to open up and cursing them to want to keep you around.

Until this point you are still an intruder who they still haven’t warmed up to on a deep level, it’s like you are a performer for them who created some entertainment, but for them to really want to keep the conversation forward and to really connect you are gonna have to talk about personal stuff.

You can ask an open ended question that allows them to speak their beliefs and feelings.

You can begin sharing how you feel about the things you talk about with them or your personal beliefs about the things you talk about.

You can tell them anecdotes that give context to the things you talk about and how you felt during the events you are describing while telling the anecdote.

Women connect with guys by sharing how you feel about the things you do in great detail. This means that it’s not enough to just say “i felt good”, instead you have to describe with metaphors or give reasons as to why you feel the way you did.

This allows women to resonate with your experiences, making them more likely to relate to you and sharing similar feelings they felt themselves in other situations.

This is when they begin to truly participate properly in the conversation and want you to stay.

So you need to be curious about their history, their experiences, their feelings, their motives,… Be curious about who they are as people.

And yes that requires you to carry a bit of the conversation initially burn it by saying endless jokes, but instead asking open ended questions or telling relevant stories or statements about your beliefs and feelings in a way that they get curious to know more about that or causes them to want to jump and say “OMG, I totally felt the same way when i…”

The next steps are the following:

4 - Make sure that we are isolated to set the stage for flirting without “activating” her defences (slut factor)

5 - Express what i find different about her to justify in a solid way my romantic/sexual interest in the next step. (Getting her to believe she is not just another girl of the countless that i might hit on)

6 - Show/express sexual interest by flirting sexually to create sexual tension and avoid being friendzoned.

7 - Intentional physical touch to test the waters about whether she is ready to be kissed and reinforce the flirtation

8 - Kiss close | Nothing sexual just to reinforced that something romantic happened, and that she is loving a fantasy

9 - Phone close | Suggesting a date idea and if she agrees, then take her number

10 - Consolidate after phone close by talking 2 minutes more fantasising out loud about the upcoming date with her and leave.

11 - First text | An inside joke about the encounter to remind her of the emotional mood she was in before i left.

Ideal time for the approach: 15 minutes?

Ideal place to approach: Train trip, public parks/beach.

PS: I can offer you a free coaching session if you DM me or book it here, and I’ll explain each step with more detail.

Informal_Sherbert251 · 2025-01-18T07:41:33+00:00

Your stuck to a routine with the inner game that’s predictable. You gotta be more creative and read body language more, be outcome independent if stuff dies and walk away and say next more often. Don’t forget that you are in a souls like game of closing the deal. That’s what matters. Nothing else matters but closing the deal. Could be an amazing night, but if you aren’t closing, the work is for nothing. So do what you gotta do to get your conference back in check, then try again without the script memorized and work on the fly.

liftingnstuff · 2025-01-17T17:55:14+00:00

You have to assume the burden of carrying the conversation until they start asking you questions about yourself or otherwise start engaging in the conversation.

amlextex · 2025-01-17T13:47:17+00:00

After you get their attraction, pull them to a dark corner and show them your yugioh cards.

“It’s time to d-d-d-d-duel!”

Title	What to do after getting their attention?
Author	UnorthodoxPhilosophR
Upvotes	3
Comments	11
Date	January 17, 2025 1:41 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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