What’s your favorite first date?

WhereTruthLies · 2019-06-08T15:01:50+00:00

There's a bar near me with good, cheap (for the area) drinks with an intimate setting. Sometimes has live music that isn't too loud so we can still talk. It's kinda hidden away but inside is very chiq. I'm friends with one of the bartenders so he always makes sure we're taken care of. Close to a park if we wanna walk around a bit before going somewhere. Pretty much ideal first date spot imo.

Worst first date is movie date. Never go for the movie date. I can list off many reasons for it but I feel it's been posted enough times.

hunterpua · 2019-06-08T15:45:27+00:00

To a place or an activity that I genuinely enjoy that is at most an hour from my place.

The closer the better though.

Its better to do something active or go somewhere that offers stimulation so that you can get to know each other in a more dynamic way and so that you will be less needy.

One of the reasons we get needy is because we're fucking bored and so we try so hard to have things go well with a girl so that she can provide the stimulation we're dying to get.

When you're doing something active too like playing board games, mini golf, karaoke, bowling, ice skating, etc then you get to see sides of each other that just doesn't come out when you're just sitting and talking.

It also creates a more powerful connection because communication via words is good but communication via action is much better.

Its easier to lie and make shit up with words than it is to put your money where your mouth is and walk the talk.

Its also easier to get a girl in an emotional state when she's actually having an experience vs just sitting and flapping her gums.

From there, if the initial place is an hour away what I do is suggest we move to a different place to eat.

If you did something active then she should have built up quite the appetite and you've already done a lot of connecting and attraction building during the activity so when you're at the food place its understandable if you both are quiet at first while eating your food.

Also, you guys will have so much to talk about anyway so by the time you guys are about to finish eating the conversation should flow very naturally.

Or you guys will just be so excited that you just can't help but talk in between bites.

You see the picture that this paints in a girl's mind? She'll already think, "Wow. Me and this guy get along really well. This conversation has been one of the most seamless ones I've ever had on a first date."

Now here's an important thing to note about the food place though, it needs to be much closer to your house.

At least 15-20 minutes away.

And part of the conversation over food should be related to something that you have at your house.

That means you should have your house ready to have a girl over.

If you just leave your house a random mess with nothing ready to entertain a guest then shame on you, you don't even trust yourself to be able to take her home that night.

And you should have something that would pique her interest or something that continues on from the day that you've already been having.

2 things that I like having at my place all the time are drinks and dessert because its very natural to want drinks and dessert after having a meal.

My drinks are pretty nice too. I have 4 bottles of different kinds of pre-mixed cocktails and I have all kinds of sweet stuff that I can use to make desserts that look like an mini Epic Meal Time.

Even just learning to make fondue and having things like fruit, marshmallows, cookies and ice cream will sound really good to a girl.

So then you make the suggestion to have drinks or dessert at your place and tell her about all the cool drinks or dessert that you have there.

The fact that its only 15-20 minutes away makes it a very easy sell.

If you look at the day you've had, you shared an experience together, you had a very effortless conversation over good food and now you're ending the day at your place.

What are the odd that she will want to have a little more than fondue when she gets there? ;)

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Alex_O7 · 2019-06-09T08:50:14+00:00

Always take some coffe and (most important) take a walk in a park or in the city center. I like the walk in the park part because i think that walking instead of just been sitting in a place could help both of us to talk and could lead easier to effective kino. Moreover i didn't meet a girl yet that didn't like to go to park for a relaxing walk lol, and to the eyes of a girl it could seem a more romantic set up (i guess).

Luffydude · 2019-06-08T16:47:40+00:00

The pub downstairs. It's shocking how most people even think about anything else other than logistics

Scenario 1 - you and the girl get along, quick 30 second up the stairs

Scenario 2 - the girl sucks and you waste 30 seconds going back upstairs

Bonus - girl is late so you can actually stay at home doing stuff as opposed to derping around waiting at the date location

JackDallas · 2019-06-09T20:27:24+00:00

Staten Island Ferry (no $$ required) NYC.

VIGILANCE981 · 2019-06-08T22:15:10+00:00

Comedy clubs

stevenmarkryan · 2019-06-08T20:41:18+00:00

ALWAYS meet at night.

ALWAYS somewhere QUIET and SIMPLE.

ALWAYS close to my apartment.

USUALLY head to a few places on the one date e.g. Bar for a drink, then dinner, then pool.

USUALLY 2-3 hours max, unless we end up back at my place.

publiclandlover · 2019-06-08T20:04:13+00:00

Be sure to always set the meetup place as the bar near the used bookstore and trendy arthouse theater so can casually suggest “Hey wanna check out x that’s right across the street.” (Saying yes is usually an indication we will be getting a bit physical on either the walk there or walk back.)

Drive there listening to Electric 6.

Get there a few minutes early to order a chaser at the bar or at the gas station so they don’t know I’m one ahead of them. Bonus by arriving before the other person usually will pay for my drink in cash making going dutch default situation.

Park my car towards the back of the lot for the contigency that meeting ends with us making out. And so I can easily drive home only making right turns.

.....I’ve been single too long think I try not to deviate from this to try and keep expectations in check.

2019-06-08T18:39:17+00:00

Met a girl in Vegas that was her first time, she always wanted to go to a Vegas show....so I took her to dinner with drinks and a show and she stayed with me all weekend and we did a lot of interesting things and I ended the weekend by taking her to STK and the most romantic show innVegas Le Reve

Title	What’s your favorite first date?
Author	Eclecto1
Upvotes	31
Comments	24
Date	June 8, 2019 2:53 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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