What’s your “script” when trying to charm a woman?

StrikingImportance39 · 2025-01-20T17:53:18+00:00

I don’t have the script. I used to have. But try use it as little as possible.

Now. Is all about going for a dinner enjoying a food, the company. Talking shit. Having fun.

I don’t even have the goal to kiss her or to have sex with her.

Ultimate outcome independence.

DaygameCode · 2025-01-20T19:22:53+00:00

Here is my step by step processed broken down:

1 - Opener and setting the playful flirty tone right away. Wanna establish myself as a flirt right away to avoid the small talk and NPC vibe.

2 - Accidental physical touch to break the touch barrier organically.

3 - Switch from impersonal to personal topics of conversation where i get her to talk about herself so she can show the type of person she is and we also can build a solid connection

4 - Make sure that we are isolated to set the stage for flirting without “activating” her defences (slut factor)

5 - Express what i find different about her to justify in a solid way my romantic/sexual interest in the next step. (Getting her to believe she is not just another girl of the countless that i might hit on)

6 - Show/express sexual interest by flirting sexually to create sexual tension and avoid being friendzoned.

7 - Intentional physical touch to test the waters about whether she is ready to be kissed and reinforce the flirtation

8 - Kiss close | Nothing sexual just to reinforced that something romantic happened, and that she is loving a fantasy

9 - Phone close | Suggesting a date idea and if she agrees, then take her number

10 - Consolidate after phone close by talking 2 minutes more fantasising out loud about the upcoming date with her and leave.

11 - First text | An inside joke about the encounter to remind her of the emotional mood she was in before i left.

Ideal time for the approach: 15 minutes

Ideal place to approach: Train trip, public parks/beach

Hope it helps, and if it doesn’t skip. This is what works for me.

PS: I can do zoom session if you DM me here and I’ll explain each step with examples.

Grand_Recipe_1330 · 2025-01-20T17:45:03+00:00

hey there baby owl how's it going

(her response) its going good how are u

(me) fine but not as fine as you

we chat about common interests for a little bit and then we have a drink or two before I lean in to kiss her

she kisses me back but I can tell she's insecure because she hasn't brushed her teeth before kissing me but im a gentleman so I give her a piece of gum. it works as both negging and seeming caring.

things get hot heavy and passionate and we end up going back to my furnishes studio apartment. we kiss and intercourse for 3 and a half hours before she falls asleep next to me.

after about 2 hours I wake her up and say the uber she ordered is here. it keeps her alert but also confused so she just gets in the taxi and leaves.

I watch tv preferably the office to refresh on what females think romance is or Tate YouTube vids and then have a steak and peppercorn mayo sandwich before putting my eye mask on and going to sleep myself

Jameson2105 · 2025-01-20T19:55:53+00:00

Be cool. Don’t compliment her. Be a normal guy and ask reasonable questions with a slight sense of humor.. flirt that’s itn

PrinceDestin · 2025-01-20T19:47:32+00:00

Don’t have a script, charm is in you not on you

What I say to women may give you different response, hell what I say to women depending on the woman may give me a different response All I know is, when it’s working it’s easy from that point forward

Charm is navigating your non verbals, your vibe and what you say

Coherently

Now “what you say” it’s not “what to say”

There’s never a specific thing to say to a woman, But what you say can be, not only just specific to that woman but something you could have just got in that moment

You get that by phishing for information out of her Half of the battle is just listening to her ramble

tilldeathdoiparty · 2025-01-20T20:33:22+00:00

Ask questions where the desired response is a no, ask this way three times in a row, they are much more likely to say yes.

This is a simple cold calling technique I use and have found success in every day life.

projectmale · 2025-01-20T21:30:26+00:00

No script. All improv. Just an overall goal of intro / get to know her / be interested / see where it leads

epimpstyle · 2025-01-20T22:09:18+00:00

The script is always like this:

Mindset (go in a talkative mode) ---> warm up (talk with other people before talking with a girl) ----> Pre-opener (maybe eye-contact, or IOI, maybe not) ---> Opener (direct/indirect/situational/questions/observational)--> (maybe false time constraint if it is necessary) --> Staking (starting a conversation, maybe give a "statement of empathy" if it is necessary) ---> Vibing (talking about the subject you just created), if she is not "hooked" --> Leave (it doesn't matter to ask for a phone number because she is not interested in you), but if she is "hooked" continue with "Investing" (in this stage she start talking, it is easier because it is a dialog and she ask questions, tells you stories but also you DHV, push-pull, qualify, make jokes, become playful, trying kino, run a compliance ladder (now again if she is not compliant) ---> Close (ask her number) and leave, if she is compliant - try an instant date. If no instant date ---> CLOSE (ask her number) and leave...

There is so much to say and explain, but if you pay attention, you will see that it is very simple and it all makes sense.

BTW, talking about "being yourself" is BS because you have to go through all the steps either consciously or not because jumping over a stage will be weird. Just picture jumping from OPENER to asking for her number CLOSE, in example it is "Hi (opener) ...... give me your phone number (close)" see? It doesn't work. Well... maybe you will get some numbers but in most of the cases it is not like that.... you need to go through all the stages.

RadiantTry9442 · 2025-01-20T23:27:16+00:00

In my experience, Scrips don’t really work. It comes off as copy/past and unauthentic. You’ll also be looking for that next line constantly and if you dont have it? Just simply, Develop a set of rules (to ensure you create the effect you’re wanting) and let your personality fill in the rest. That mixed with built up confidence will naturally make you more charming.

Dandys3107 · 2025-01-21T09:20:02+00:00

There are plenty of motives and ideas that you can try out, but generally it's about your qualities of paying attention to mood, emotions, non-verbal communication and still staying creative even if you have big experience and successes with previous cases. Such unique and natural approach usually bears better results than non-emotional script and provides better experience for both of the sides. Don't think of seduction as some exam for which you study and pass, think about empowering yourself to be able to handle any circumstances that life would throw at you and enjoy your interactions with beautiful women to the fullest.

Title	What’s your “script” when trying to charm a woman?
Author	NintaiYUH
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Date	January 20, 2025 5:37 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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