When cold approaching, what REALLY should you really go after?

a-gentlesoul · 2021-01-30T16:06:32+00:00

I'd say if you are anxious starting out and don't have experience a good goal would be to just do the approach itself. That's it. Once you get more comfortable and confident you can have whatever goal you would like. Normally you assess the situation and decide in the moment: if she's in a hurry, obviously she will turn down an instant date. Etc. To help you get in the right headspace you can start just talking to women. Randomly. Paying them compliments for example and leaving. Do it in a matter of not wanting anything from them. That will help you get used to the whole approaching strangers and talking to them. Once you get comfortable you can start longer interactions, and then ask for number or whatever.

Can't say how often the cold approach leads to dates 🤷 don't know about statistics but definitely it's better to do that than not doing anything.

Hope that helps! Don't think about it too much and just start doing it and pay attention to your results. Work on your conversation skills. Good luck!!

ShakaPiontkowskie1 · 2021-01-31T19:22:00+00:00

If you are new to cold approach, the first year to 18 months should be just blind learning. Go out, try crazy things, approach saying silly statements, etc. These are your training wheel times where you get to set the foundation for getting better at game. The only way to master game is through experimentation and refinement.

hob814 · 2021-01-31T01:37:31+00:00

Semce your starting, go for a "no". This is little weird but the goal for this is to not let rejection affect you much. So here is the think you have to go to her start a conversation in anyway you want and ask for her phone number. Thats all if she said no you won you wanted her to say no. If she said yes and gave it you lost but now you have her phone number. Now not sure how much it will help you get better with it and get over rejection but its worth giving it a try.

Second will cold approaching will give yoy the highest number of dates. Its simple math your trying more so you will succeed more.

Third get a date and go out go for a first date with all. Of them (not at the same time) see who deserves a second and who doesnt maybe you will like one more than any of the others.

2021-01-31T01:42:31+00:00

You're 17. So you got time. Just enjoy the journey of learning and practicing. Approach a lot with tact. Treat others the way one wants to be treated. Learn and adapt social skills with psychology of influence, ethics, morals, principles, clean humour, integrity, and so on. Ends don't just the means. Just because one can do abc or 123 doesn't mean one ought to. There are proper ways to cold approach and wrong ways to do so. Good luck! Be safe! If you have social anxiety, consult with a therapist or psychologist who is a qualified specialist in treating social anxiety (general or situational).

earsurgery9 · 2021-01-31T15:14:25+00:00

just try to get her engaged in the convo should be the goal, tbh. What actually happens is largely out of your control (at every level). With the ones who seem receptive, try to get their number. If she really seems to be into you, try to go on an instant date

DAVIB1010 · 2021-01-31T19:31:22+00:00

I think the biggest thing is simply being you without expectations. Confidence without bravado is attractive. This comes from being yourself and more importantly being happy and content with who you are. I think it is important to try to escalate things within the first few weeks simply to ensure you are conveying the right message. If you want someone who is more then a friend then be more then a friend to them and show that by trying and mostly by listening. Be happy with yourself then be genuine and results will come naturally, it hurts you to be to needy to fast.

revente · 2021-01-30T12:46:17+00:00

At minimum look for contact info. If everything goes well maybe an instant date, makeout or even same day sex.

socialanimal_us · 2021-02-02T16:34:02+00:00

Checkout this beginner going for it, you ll be inspired :) https://youtu.be/bnhtDwAbFNw

Title	When cold approaching, what REALLY should you really go after?
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Date	January 30, 2021 12:36 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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