I’ve been looking for a very casual friends with benefits situation. I haven’t had much luck with finding someone I’d like to see more than once. Recently I met someone off tinder. We messaged consistently for a bit (a few weeks due to not being able to get together because of timing issues) then he finally came over yesterday and we had sex. He mentioned meeting up again before he left. I’d like to see him again bc the sex was really good. Do I message him first? Or wait for him to reach out? I feel kind of dumb asking but casual sex with the same person is fairly new to me (versus relationships or just one night stands).

UPDATE. He hasn’t opened my message from Friday. But we’re still friends on Snapchat and matched on tinder. He hasn’t taken this long to reply to previous messages. I guess I already know the answer but time to move along? I wish people would just be upfront about shit. If you’re not interested in meeting up again just say it. Or delete me off of everything. While that would kind of suck it would at least get the point across.