Why am I getting better results by being calculative with how I text women, and not just being authentic to how I would normally speak live, in-person (where you don’t have as much time to think about what to say)?

BitbyLite · 2021-04-04T03:08:22+00:00

Practice makes habit

Daunt02 · 2021-04-04T04:03:49+00:00

I just tell quick jokes then set up a date and time to meet up. If you're finding success with your technique I'd stick to it. Texting is unnatural compared to in-person communication so I wouldn't compare the two as much as you are. Just stick with what works with texts and make solid in-person meetups

joli7312 · 2021-04-04T11:54:15+00:00

If I don't calculate I end up saying stupid shit which can't be reciprocated or even gives the person bad feelings, in online dating one single mistake ends the convo. On the other hand really thinking through each and every text is fucking exhausting too.

I just try to meet up asap instead

letsgetlit2019 · 2021-04-04T13:14:07+00:00

Context. Texting removes a lot of context from a conversation. Things like vocal tonality, eye contact and body language fly out of the window. Especially if you've never met someone in real life before. That's why texting is it's own thing. It's not even a natural form of conversation. That's why calculating makes a lot of sense to me. That said, I don't like or do texting much anyways. And when I do, it's almost always someone i know from real life.

lil_keewii · 2021-04-04T17:33:56+00:00

I just want you to know that it's not about being perfect :) Yes, you're taking your time to write out well written sentences, but that won't help you in person. Keep the convos short and tell them you'd much rather prefer to meet and see how things go :) If you're interested and she is, that should be enough :)

checkthingsout · 2021-04-06T20:58:47+00:00

What text game guide would you recommend? Ya practice and calculation are part of you so you are being you

sukahmahspaghet · 2021-04-05T09:24:59+00:00

Because authenticity is a lie

xoraxus · 2021-04-04T08:10:16+00:00

So what should I try to be in a convo, calculative or dumb me?

ninjaweninja · 2021-04-04T12:08:46+00:00

brilliant mind

misshoneybee613 · 2021-04-04T15:22:22+00:00

I’ve learned that texting is not my friend. When it comes to short questions, or a quick “good morning. Have a great day at work...”, it’s all good. ANYTHING that goes much further then that is a no way. So many TERRIBLE misunderstandings have occurred from texts! I’ve been on both sides- meaning I’ve been the one to take something said harmlessly & took it like the other person was hurting me and didn’t understand why. I’ve also been the one to say something with zero mal intent, but was taken by the other person in the worst way possible.

With texting, you can’t hear the other persons tone. You can’t see their facial expressions. There is no context. Texting anything having to do with feelings & emotions is a straight disaster waiting to happen.

Philipparty · 2021-04-04T19:53:59+00:00

There are a lot of differences in texting and talking. Texting lacks emotions, body language, vocal tone, and momentum. Most choises we make are emotional, not verbal, so comunicating with just words is very unnatural. So its probably just a natural responce to be more concious of the words when texting

axe122 · 2021-04-05T00:27:24+00:00

Text enough how you’ve been until the text responses come to your mind right away. Then just do the same shit you do in text in real life. You’ll find most women respond to the same jokes as the others do. Don’t be afraid to use the same joke over and over again. If you had a funny joke you told to your family would you not tell it to your friends?

Once the responses come to your mind fast start incorporating the same style jokes in real life. If your spending over 5-10 min to craft a text your spending to much time on it. Just think what am I sub communicating in this text and why am I sending it? You want to hold the frame of a guy who’s interested in her but not sure how interested yet and definitely not sold on her. Your also a guy who has options with other women and if you take her out it’s because you want her but don’t need her. You also want to hold frame and not back down from anything you say. Don’t change your opinion to match hers and don’t let her change your mind on something.

Ask why your sending the text. Especially once the initial conversation is mostly over and you know a few things about eachother. So if your texting her what she had for dinner why are you asking her a boring ass question like that?

If she told you she was going out to her favorite restaurant for her moms bday then that might make sense to ask what she had for dinner when she tells you she’s home from dinner.

If your texting her because your trying to keep the conversation going and don’t know what else to say your better off not sending the text.

Instead just let her wonder what your doing and only text to have fun or sexual conversation or with a purpose like setting a date or changing the plans. You’ll want to get to know a few things about eachother so she can ask you them questions and feel comfortable meeting a stranger off the internet (it sounds like your online dating) You’ll get to know her over the course of dating though and it doesn’t matter what her favorite movie or type of music is. No amount of getting to know her or having things in common will make her like you if she doesn’t feel any kind of spark (sexual tension/ chemistry)

It’s more important to have fun,excite her and turn her on than to get to know a million things about her. If you spend your time learning her life story and she denies a second date then you wasted a lot of both your time and have a ton of useless knowledge about her.

If you knew you were 100% gonna be seeing her over the course of the next month would you be trying to learn everything you can about her before you’ve slept with her or finished the first date?

Expensive-War6151 · 2021-04-05T16:39:51+00:00

Girls get bombarded with texts from guys, so your texts need to be on point much more than your in-person convo does. It sounds like your texting is working, so use the texts to get a date relatively quickly. Don't worry too much about your in-person convo being as riveting as your texts. Girls don't expect that anyway.

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