I met this guy 2 months ago and since then he constantly confuses me. There are days when he is so attentive and nice and then as if a switch was pulled he would change the next day… from nice one day to being rude and stand-offish.

On his nice days he used to be so caring and would always ask me how my cats are doing and if I were up to anything. I made sure to always reciprocate because I truly cared and wanted to continue the convo. Then on his mean days be would almost try and pretend I didn’t exist- he would do things that we would normally do together. Never makes eye contact w me and just talks down a lot. All of this making me feel smaller than a worm at times soooo I would get irritated and make sure to keep my distance and do my own thing.. AND as if by chance he would switch up and try getting closer to me.

Some other things about him-

  • he will stare at my hands sometimes as we talk (I do tend to fidget w them but he just looks at them)
  • he will come up behind me sometimes like super close but we have never broken the physical barrier so its to the point where i can feel him without actually touching
  • when we first met he definitely was physically affected but embarrassed so he would leave the room and come back when he was better
  • this is something that also confuses me a lot but it seems as if he comes to check in on me when im in other rooms. Like he will pretend to grab something just to see what im doing or just to see if im still there

There is just a lot more and ive come to my wits end of trying to make sense of it