Why are you into seduction?

AAtoPUA · 2016-04-16T18:02:53+00:00

I view seduction not as just seducing women, but actually improving myself to become my best self so to speak. When I was in my teens I had a lot of social anxiety, I couldn't for the life of me talk to girls and I wasn't social in the slightest. At recess, I was usually by myself just reading.

Then, right before I entered university, I came across the book The Game and it intrigued me. That's where my journey into seduction started. Now, a few years later, I am much more confident and social, and people around me noticed it too. So, seduction didn't only help me with talking to girls, but also improving my life in general.

Rojozeus · 2016-04-16T18:12:01+00:00

My whole life ive been afraid to converse with people. I was terrified of women, and after my ex cheated on me i decided to turn it around and do the things i never did in my highschool years, like going to parties and talking to girls. And actually learning alot about my self. My biggest regret isnt failing most of my classes, Its not talking to girls as much as i would of liked. Her cheating on me and breaking up has turned my life around and Ive been studying seduction because it helps me figure out who I am and what i want

mmmzesty · 2016-04-16T18:29:40+00:00

Seduction essentially taught me how to be a man and less of a bitch, give less fucks and be able to unconditionally be myself. I started about 1 year ago as a 19 year old virgin. Met one girl with the knowledge from here and that turned into a shitty 2 month relationship but it helped me to understand women more and correct mistakes. Because of all the knowledge I gathered here I managed to date about 12 women in no time, and got laid 4 times out of those 12, good ratio there, and finally I managed to meet a girl about 2 months ago who I'm really happy with. I really appreciate seduction for that. Also this isn't all about meeting and fucking women, it's about improving yourself in every aspect of life and being happy with who you are.

CrushHazard · 2016-04-16T19:19:42+00:00

First off, very little of what's talked about on Seddit is true seduction. It's more just dating advice, self-improvement, pickup strategies. Seduction is making someone fall in love with you.

I think what really attracted me to seduction is that, at my core, I am kind of obsessed with love and being in love and having women be in love with me. Throughout the entirety of my teenage years, I felt like I was being encouraged to hide that part of me -- to pretend it doesn't exist.

When I learned that the part of me that emotionally connects with women gives me a massive advantage over other guys...when I learned to hone and develop and control it, it was just a great feeling. It's like the part of me that I despised so much when I was younger became the root cause of my outrageous fortune with women later in life.

rikerw · 2016-04-16T18:32:31+00:00

I don't generally agree with everything he says, but Julian Blanc defined game as "the never ending journey of making yourself more attractive as a man, and getting women as a byproduct of that" which is think is pretty spot on

Sovereign_Curtis · 2016-04-16T19:21:52+00:00

If I get drunk and some guy asks me "Hey, how many girls did you have?" I can say 10 and I won't lie.

Dude, you're 34. That shit doesn't happen anymore, unless you're hanging out with High Schoolers...

bboydfresh · 2016-04-16T22:06:20+00:00

For me it's a combination of trying to stop being the 'nice guy', frustration how I've never been in a relationship let alone touched a woman sexually, and I don't want my parents 'hooking me up' with some girl back home.

Also I'm an Asian guy and I'm into white women. Among my social circle it's usually Asians with Asians, which I'm not attracted to Asian girls. (Of course there are exceptions if they look like a k pop star for example)

Psychocist · 2016-04-16T23:23:33+00:00

To build some kind of control over my love life.

For whatever reason, I was not one of those people who naturally had success with women growing up. Somewhere along the line that lack of success exacerbated my pre-existing confidence issues and pretty much severed my penis.

I based a lot of my self-worth on how attractive I was/felt, but, thankfully, I simply typed into google "how to attract women"...and a few hops, skips, and jumps later I found myself on /r/seduction and /r/foreveralone at the same time.

I was 28, mostly hopeless, but committed to change. I'd had sex a handful of times at 22, but not kissed a woman in 5 years. I was suicidal, and without question thought I would spend the rest of my life alone, destined to never kiss another person. I could barely hold eye contact with women.

With the advice here, and from the book Models, I was able to breakdown a lot of self-limiting beliefs about my attractiveness.

I stopped spending all my free time playing games. I upgraded my online profiles with better pictures. I then started salsa dancing to get used to kino. Around the same time I started to get dates (one chick actually from salsa within first few months of starting)... then I started rock climbing, photography, guitar, TKD, massage classes, trampolining, improv. I didn't get anywhere with any of that, but that's not the point! Despite being terrified every step, I kept pushing forward.

The idea that improving myself had the side-effect of attracting women was the moment I started to take self-improvement much more seriously. The motivation might not be wholly pure at the minute, but I know that will also change with time - I'm just exploring my new-found power, and women are becoming less captivating the more success I have with them.

In the last year I've gone from a 5 year dry patch to going on 15 or so dates, falling into a 6 month relationship (that I broke off instead of settling), kissing 10 of those dates, sleeping with 5. My level of confidence has gone from -1 to 8. Self-worth issues run a bit deeper, but I'm getting therapy for it.

Not that the numbers matter, but just to illustrate the monumental shift my life has taken since joining this community. I'm massively grateful for the knowledge and support it's provided for myself and others. Who knows where I would be if I'd stayed on /r/foreveralone.

sykilik101 · 2016-04-18T21:52:20+00:00

I feel like the "nature" of seduction is fairly conducive towards the things about me that I already exhibit; seduction just gives me an outlet. I'm a naturally flirty guy, I like getting to know people, I like forming connections with people, all that jazz. I just have a ton of shyness getting in the way of that. For me, seduction is about finding ways to express all those traits I have without letting shyness get in the way.

There's also a small sense of vanity in me; I get a kick when I think that I've gotten someone to like me.

grez111 · 2016-04-26T08:15:16+00:00

I hear its a kind of self improvement among other things

Title	Why are you into seduction?
Author	absoluter_beginner
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Date	April 16, 2016 5:10 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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