(Writing this on my phone so sorry about formatting and stuff)

People keep posting time and time again on here that attractiveness automatically wins you a ticket towards winning the girls, while your social skills make little to no difference, I am sorry but this is simply not true.

I get it, some people think that we are lying that attractiveness isn't important because we don't want it to sound like an unfair world where genetics automatically decides if you are happy or not, this is something I myself also believed when I was unattractive.

It is also the reason we divide ourselves into supposed "leagues".

Please take everything I say with a grain of salt since this is my own personal experience and my own observations.

Growing up I wasn't the most attractive person around, my face was covered in acne and I was still going through my long hair emo phase, add a dash of mr nice guy and a huge lack of confidence, you end up with a guy that had his first make out experience at the age of 18.

Once I graduated high school and moved abroad, I cut my hair and puberty had done me well. I became far more attractive (supposedly somewhere around 8/10).

I suddenly felt like this was the turning point where I was going to be drowning in the pussy.

What did happen, was that I would be approached a lot by girls, however, this was when I realized that yes, I was attractive and approached frequently, but I had no idea what to do, when the girls realized I was kinda clueless and uninteresting and kinda hoped my looks would win the day they would lose interest and leave.

And yet I noticed that some guys who were average at best, could be really good at getting the girls, the reason being is because it's hard to find an attractive guy, but it's even harder to find a confident guy who knows how to play the game and that is instantly more attractive.

What I likened this too is video games.

Consider attractiveness to be bonus stats, but bonus stats can give you an advantage but they will never make up for your lack of skill and mechanics in a boss encounter, that is something you yourself need to build up through trial and error.

Don't forget that a lot of women, no matter how high up they are on the hot scale, have a lot of insecurities about their looks and body, especially really hot women who are approached even less often.

They are not usually very picky about how good looking a guy is but rather how confident he is, if it really matters to the guy at the end of the day if he gets the girl or not. An example of this is when I went to Japan and started using Tinder there, I was bombarded with matches (since girls like the whole foreigner thing) what I noticed was that I suddenly ignored how attractive the girls were that I matched with and was rather testing them for how interesting they were.

What I have additionally noticed is that I have come to be attracted to women simply because of their unique and eccentric personalities which also brimmed with confidence, they weren't by any means attractive, (perhaps average) but their personality really sold it.

To add to this, girls can be very weird about their taste in men, I have come across girls who are attracted towards really nerdy/unattractive men, but because it fits a image that they have it works for them.

Of course there are movie examples as well such as David Cumberbatch, is like to think he isn't a very attractive person, but his brimming personality and confidence is what really mad him attractive and gave him a unique attractiveness as well with personality.

Bonus: consider the fact that you can always pump up your attractiveness by changing your wardrobe for different outfits and experimenting different hairstyle to find what suits you.