Why didn't she do X?

octopi_ash · 2019-06-08T15:56:39+00:00

Abundance, abundance, abundance

DayvyT · 2019-06-08T18:55:03+00:00

I thought you were asking why she didnt do ecstasy and how to improve your seduction game.

Difive · 2019-06-08T18:40:26+00:00

So, at the end, you know.

She simply doens't care about you enough to make an effort

2019-06-08T20:44:39+00:00

This is the mindset: If she doesn't reciprocate, move on. Unlimited women are out here. I know it's easy to want to dwell on the woman who went silent. Been there. But it's wasyed energy after a point. Spend that energy on new prospects.

2019-06-08T20:43:33+00:00

Some of us don't have an abundance mentality because well, there's not an abundant amount of girls interested in us, hence why we can't stop thinking about this one girl we went on a date once. It's not the right mentality, but it takes time to build that mentality. Either you create that abundance by talking to a lot of women, or you find a different mentality to get you to stop focusing on that one girl. I'm working on this because I don't have an abundance of women into me because I don't approach (I'm too shy, and I'm working on it), and I'm talking to this girl with whom I think I clicked, she said she wanted to see me again, even texted me today to set up a date tomorrow but then later she said she couldn't make it and to reschedule. It sucks, cause I'm getting mixed signals, but I gotta realize she's just one girl of many I could be talking to.

Eclecto1 · 2019-06-08T15:47:34+00:00

If it’s not a fuck yes it’s a no.

Savageseeks · 2019-06-08T19:25:01+00:00

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UnparliamentaryTea · 2019-06-08T20:19:40+00:00

Why did she flake : Well, either she is an avoider-avoider type personality, or you didn't activate all of her emotions.

Why doesn't she initiate: Because girls are avoiders by nature.

Why doesn't she respond: Too many options or isn't into you.

We had a great date: No , YOU had a great date and clearly weren't reading her body language.

caesarfecit · 2019-06-09T04:22:03+00:00

These kinds of dilemmas make more sense when you consider two very important facts.

Most women are amateurs at best when it comes to game. They're just better on average than men.
70% of seduction is indirect at best, and frequently non verbal. Communication breakdowns are kind of inevitable.

That's why it's so important to be disciplined with your shits to give. Like baseball, if you're batting over .300, you're doing freakishly well.

I can't think of how many situations I've had that were ruined by some kind of miscommunication or missed connection. Almost as many as when one of us would make a flat out mistake.

And I can't begin to tell how many times I've tried to "fix" it, only to make things worse. To the point where I would have been further ahead just letting things go.

Another thing to consider is that the more invested a girl is, the less likely she is to flake or give up, or blow you off. But on the flip side, the more invested she is, the more likely she is to play games, get needy, get insecure, or just flat out sabotage herself - just as over-invested guys do.

NextSpinach · 2019-06-08T23:32:37+00:00

I think the problem is, and I know I suffer from it, that we're not necessarily a reliable narrative.

I know guys not particularly used to this will look at basically anything to deny interest as opposed to very obvious interest signals.

Why didn't she text back? You sent a text with no clear question and she had nothing to respond to so the conversation ended.

Why didn't she call? You haven't been clear with your desires and you haven't called her.

So sometimes people come on here wanting to see if their interpretation is genuine. I think thats reasonable.

xoxuv · 2019-06-08T20:38:04+00:00

The most frequent case is that the woman is taking advantage of the man. Specially for a blue pilled dude.

Women always use plausible deniability. For that reason, they cannot be given the benefit of doubt.

It is wrong to assume "fairness". That mindset is always self defeating, because mature people sets boundaries. To always give the benefit of doubt is to renounce to have boundaries, and to give to the girl the power to define the boundaries. That by itself causes the girl to reject the man.

So, a man has to always define the meaning of her flakiness. It means "if you do this to me, this are the consequences".

Funkimonkey · 2019-06-09T01:44:00+00:00

Incorrect. I can very often tell the reason why. You have to understand women better. Try harder.

Title	Why didn't she do X?
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Date	June 8, 2019 3:40 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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