It's like I was born in a monastery and had their puritanical BS burned into my brain - even when I'm on a date and I know deep down that the girl is wanting me to go in for the kiss or make the conversation more sexual...I just feel questionable doing it.

It doesn't come naturally and I always feel smooth as sandpaper when I do it as well. But eventually this leads girls to wondering whether I'm actually interested in them.

I know this is a basic question but do you guys have any advice for how to reframe it in my head so I don't build it up into being a lot bigger than it really is... and don't psych myself out of doing something that is really supposed to be very natural...

I used to think it was a lack of confidence (to some degree it is) but I think it's more about this attempt not to make them or the situation potentially uncomfortable - which is a risk you always have to take when getting sexual with someone right?