Why is AA so hard to get over?

MeanwhileInAmerica · 2013-07-20T10:31:36+00:00

Because if a caveman talked to another caveman's wife, he would get the shit beat out of him. Its obsolete, no longer applicable. Women are there at the bar, all dressed up putting themselves out there, they want you to talk to them and you will never see it until she smiles for the first time off of something you say.

HanSoloHere · 2013-07-20T15:54:25+00:00

Want too know how I got over AA? I got freaking pissed at myself. Take a minute and think about all the missed opportunities in your life with women, think about how much time you have wasted being a little bitch. Truth of the matter is you only live once, you need too man up and go after what you want in life. When I see a woman I fancy it doesn't matter where I am or what the setting is I go after her, that's what a man does. The more you wait the more of your life you are wasting not getting what your heart desires. When you see a pretty girl today for the love of god, go talk too her dude. Let today be the first day of your new life, take that first step and get out of your comfort zone, its a prison and it will hold you back. Be mad at yourself, you should be.

etcomro · 2013-07-20T17:43:09+00:00

I like Tyler Durden's take on it. AA exists because our egos are attached to our outcome and we think our thoughts are real. Read "The Power of Now" by Eckhart Tolle. Totally changes your perspective and helps you consciously understand what's going on. Someone said below to try mushrooms and those will take you there but sometimes it can be hard to take the lesson away from it.

When you see your thoughts for what they are, manifestations of the brain and not your true nature, it's easier to slip into being present and into a flow state. You can overcome AA right now. Ask yourself "Who is the I that knows I'm feeling this?" and you may not know right away. But you know that there's something observing it, a fundamental "I am"-ness that always is. Ken Wilber's "A Brief History of Everything" is another great read.

Oh and daily meditation/yoga are two great things to help you with presence. It's a daily practice.

colucci · 2013-07-20T19:21:28+00:00

If you have trouble with that, I'd suggest you get a sales rep job. Preferably street sales. It's a mental block and nothing more. After you approach in public and make a total fool out of yourself trying to sell a product with a cheesy pitch, any kind of pick up attempt (successful or failure) will seem like a walk in the park.

Seddit_b1ood · 2013-07-20T19:25:02+00:00

Watch this . When you see something like this and realize "You miss 100% of the shots you don't take", you'll see how crazy it is to have AA. Sure you might get rejected, so what? What the fuck dude, you're missing on so many awesome things. TRY STUFF. Laugh at yourself if you fail.

Here's the worst that can happen : Some guy punches gets a bit mad.
Here's the worst that happened to me : "Ehhrrrr what are you doing?"

No big deal man. Get over it! :)

cinonym · 2013-07-20T19:48:06+00:00

Because you're invested in what might happen.

Rejection does hurt -- at least to the degree that you care about the person rejecting you. Still, if you're worried about it and it prevents you from risking anything, all you've done is guarantee your own unhappiness. You've been rejected before, so when you stop in your tracks and don't approach, what you're probably doing is reliving the pain from those times. If you're going to have to endure those sort of feelings, you might as well approach. At least then there's a chance that something good will happen.

You might be trying to do too much, too. Perhaps you should start smaller and work your way up?

Also, I don't think egos try to protect their hosts. Only themselves.

budguy68 · 2013-07-20T22:10:40+00:00

As other users have mentioned its Because its in OUR program. Hundreds of thousands, if not millions of years of evolution though natural selection have made us this way. But now the rules have change and we most go beyond our program to get "ahead".

AA will never go away. It will always come back and haunt you and make you feel shitty and inferior.

The other day I got rejected from getting a new smart phone and plan from Sprint. I felt shitty because I really wanted that phone and their plan. But then I got over it by approaching some more. A month ago I got fired from a job and told to go home. I had to walk out of the building with my cardboard box in front of other employees. It ruined a lot of my social plans and fucked up my self esteem up. Yet I am still going out 3-4 times a week. Even if I had shitty nights. It does pay of you and become amazed at how comfortable you become in any social situation.

Anyways I look as discomfort as a good thing. Because if I feel social discomfort that means I am expanding my comfort zone by throwing myself in crazy social situations. So feel happy that you are putting yourself in those situations instead of just sitting at home.

dkdc · 2013-07-21T02:45:50+00:00

I don't know if this will help you at all but I started to do /r/nofap and it helped with the anxiety. Made my first approach last week, still had some anxiety but I was more willing than I normally am. Maybe it's worth a look?

bigfishh · 2013-07-20T10:42:15+00:00

See at this point, where you read so much, maybe it is in fact pointless. There really isn't anything else to say then " get more girls bitch ". Seriously, just do it. There's no analysis or white words that can help you now, it's just you taking action or not so go out and stop being a faggot. Good luck.

KimonoThief · 2013-07-21T01:15:01+00:00

I've had dozens and dozens of girls say "no" to me when I asked them to dance. And you know how many I actually remember? Not a single one. And I really doubt they remember me either. Once that pressure is off, there's really no reason to be anxious.

LAUGHasinLOG · 2013-07-20T17:01:22+00:00

Either smoke weed or take shrooms. Totally helps me chill the fuck out.

Btw I don't necessairly mean do this everyday but one night of a shroom experience helped me get out of my inner dialogue and over complicating every interaction.

brianed · 2013-07-20T15:23:27+00:00

Because you think about it.

yankeetiger · 2013-07-23T23:01:35+00:00

I know it's my ego trying to protect me.

Exactly. Most men don't approach because they are hardwired to be lesser males, males who are destined to settle for second-rate women.

You can re-wire yourself into a man who deserves the best and knows it, but it's not an easy task.

Title	Why is AA so hard to get over?
Author	paki123
Upvotes	16
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Date	July 20, 2013 10:18 AM UTC (13 years ago)
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