Why is happiness so important while seducing women?

recyclablebanthas · 2021-04-26T11:20:46+00:00

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Like if I want to seduce a select women, I should project happiness and loving myself.

Let's back the train up a little. Who said you have to "project happiness and loving yourself" to seduce a woman?

Didn't they explain themselves?

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In any case I can make an educated guess where they were coming from and their advice was about as actionable as telling you to just be yourself.

You don't just start protecting happiness and self-love. Like that isn't a technique. It's something that just happens if you actually are happy and actually love yourself.

So the real advice this person intended to give was that you should focus on finding your own happiness and self-love.

But how to do that? Obviously that's really the question and someone who says you need to project XYZ to get the girl is either full of s*** or doesn't understand what they're really saying.

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This doesn't make sense to me. How do I even project that I love myself?

You don't really need to project self-love and happiness in order to seduce a woman. A lot of people out there are lacking in self-love and aren't happy. Some of those are men and some of those are women.

The four most important things are:

Confidence (allows you to do stuff)
Calibration abilities/empathy (to know how and when to do stuff)
Logistics (having a good place in time to do stuff)
And a good awareness of your own Boundaries is also important so that you don't do something you'll hate yourself for later.

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To circle back to the happiness thing, it does help your whole vibe if you find ways to be happy. If you are, great! You won't have to deliberately project it. People will know.

It's the same with self-love.

2021-04-25T15:06:51+00:00

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ld20r · 2021-04-25T18:32:44+00:00

I have to take issue with the posts about mental health and loving yourself. Obviously important but I know plenty off people who don’t, some borderline suicidal and have plenty of chicks falling off them. I also know many people who do love themselves value their life, look after their fitness and have sweet damn all to show for it.

When it comes down to it Dating and life in general is largely based around 4 defining factors. Timing, Luck, Opportunity and Perseverance.

Now most people have no power or control over the first 2 but the good news is if you force yourself to create Opportunity and never give up in anything you do you increase your chances of success.

Bottom line: “Luck happens when Opportunity meets Preparation”

Some-Sandwich8887 · 2021-04-25T14:59:54+00:00

If you don’t love yourself, how you expect others to love you? You project your happiness very simply - you should like everything in your life, and showing that it goes exactly as you planned (even if your life sucks). You work at McDonald’s - “I am a second reincarnation of Spongebob and enjoy flipping burgers, at one day I will open my own restaurant”. You drive an old car - “that same car was driven by [famous person] in [famous movie], I enjoy every bit of it”. You don’t have many friends - “I have best people out there where one counts for 10, that how good my boys are”. And so goes on. Yes women want to see men who have their life fully under control and happy with that way. You are boss of your life. You don’t care what others think of you. Everything goes as planned. If you change your mind you can tomorrow join any company and buy a Lamborghini, you just don’t want it right now. This is how you should look and act. Never show your insecurities and problems. But of course it works only when you are young. At 40 it won’t help you that much. And the best thing of course is when you actually actively work towards some goal not just chilling.

dasanman69 · 2021-04-25T17:39:26+00:00

Because the world is a mirror. You get the energy you put out

Sure-thinghomie · 2021-04-25T18:51:59+00:00

For me unhappiness and the inability to love yourself is a huge red flag that you don’t have your shit together. Put the work in and come back when you’re healthy. When your mental health starts getting better, it feels really good and you will protect that shit. Being vulnerable with people who haven’t figured out basic happiness is going to negatively impact me. It’s not because you’re a bad person, I will just soak up that negativity and I can’t do that.

boomjolt · 2021-04-25T15:16:59+00:00

A few different reasons. Unhappiness is a sign of depression/mental illness and women are careful not to let that mess into their life. She doesn't want to take care of you, she's not your mother.

Dating is supposed to be fun. Women want to have a good time with men, not be bummed out.

Lastly, and most importantly, happiness is synonymous with confidence. You're content with yourself and your life. You can handle any difficult situation that arises. You're not afraid of new experiences, which again, makes you fun and exciting.

Ohyarlysmiles · 2021-04-25T20:22:59+00:00

It isn't.

This is one of the dumbest dumbfuckery gaslighty pieces of advice.

Look good, talk to females.

yaboijimbo123 · 2021-04-25T15:20:49+00:00

You keep everything grounded while their emotions are running them all over the place. Also you won’t rely on them if they’re bad to you.

danirobot · 2021-04-25T22:29:37+00:00

They’re wondering if they can see themselves living with you in a long meaningful relationship. If you’re not a happy person, she won’t want to live with you for decades on end.

GitGud_Pirates_Inc · 2021-04-25T22:48:22+00:00

I mean I'm no expert at talking to people in fact I'm still getting the fundamentals down having been basically not allowed to do anything with anyone outside of school... but it's all about being confident in yourself, you can't doubt yourself or think it will go bad or won't work believe it will happen and believe you can do it. That's how our minds work, they create some "reality" based on what we constantly hear and think. You want to think about what you want but also go in with outcome independence. In general people tend to enjoy socialization unless they're incredibly introverted, when you're happy, confident, just don't care about the outcome, just really get into that positive vibe and even whatever vibe you want with the person. All I've read and seen from my roommate who basically has his own version of the bachelorette or bachelor (the one with 1 guy many women all wanting).

They see a happy man, a man that knows where he's going, has it together

Intelligent-Stop-239 · 2021-04-26T00:46:04+00:00

Would you want to befriend a friend that’s Always sad? Looks like he’s down in the dumps? Depressed 24/7? Shiiiiiit would you want to date a woman that has no love for herself? No confidence in her decisions or no boundaries set? No opinions on things be-it herself, her life or the world? I think all these things show how much someone loves themselves

2021-04-27T09:02:42+00:00

You can’t. You have to actually love yourself.

princecome · 2021-04-25T18:30:51+00:00

Do Metta meditation. That’s what it’s all about.

Title	Why is happiness so important while seducing women?
Author	garfield1997
Upvotes	38
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Date	April 25, 2021 2:48 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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