Why my flake rate is so high ?

newmood · 2015-07-21T07:17:54+00:00

I think it's all the dots you're using.

FrozenFirebat · 2015-07-21T07:22:33+00:00

Don't suggest the date in your initial text. the first part works fine. You readdress how you two know each other. I'd only add that you should try to work in something interesting that you two have in a shared experience from your initial encounter; being playful or teasing with it. Then after you've got some light banter going back and forth, you can drop the We should have coffee some time (I personally like to just drop in an multiple choice starter: "Which do you like more, Coffee or Ice Cream?") And then suggest the date. Other than that, it's just a nitpicking point on top of these other nitpicking points, but I don't like to ask when is good for a girl. I'll drop 2-3 times that i'm available and ask her if any of those work for her.

wotsitsaredelicious · 2015-07-21T13:37:34+00:00

You need to be more specific about the date. Girls want the guy to take the lead. First bit is fine. But after that, "coffee at x cafe, 11am Thursday? " something like that.

RenegadeNation · 2015-07-21T12:19:54+00:00

When asking for her number: "Blah blah blah I think we should meet again" (something along the lines of that) her "blah blah blah definitely, we should!" you "how can we make that happen?" her "well, I could give you my number" you "blah blah yeah I'll text you" just so that she thinks it was her idea, she's more committed to following through. make sure within the first day just text her saying who it is and where you know her from. This is not a conversation text just so she doesn't for get about you. Make it some thing she will remember. let me know if this helps

JoRocKStaR · 2015-07-21T14:56:17+00:00

You need to built an emotional connection. Try some callback humor.

letsgetrandy · 2015-07-21T16:52:02+00:00

Hey _____ it was nice to meet you at bar on Friday

Re-introducing yourself. Suggests you're not memorable. Try assuming a frame where of course she remembers you... how could she not?

We should have coffee sometime.

Coffee is weak, and sometime is non-committal. Also, you just established that you're not memorable, so why should she have coffee with you?

I know a cool place at ___ what day and time works for you?

You're basically asking her to plan the date. Be more suggestive.

Break this up over multiple messages. You need to give her a chance to respond and get involved.

Maybe more like this:

YOU: Hey! How was your weekend?

HER: It was good. Yours?

YOU: Mine was pretty good as well, but nothing else I did was as good as meeting you Friday.

HER: Aw. LOL

YOU: What are you up to tomorrow? Wanna grab some coffee?

HER: I already have plans.

YOU: Okay, when are you free?

bolxrex · 2015-07-21T23:21:51+00:00

"Should" is the worst way to frame asking a girl out. And following it up with a question is the coup de gras.

Instead try:

"Let's meet up at [time/place]"

Or

"You were a lot of fun saturday night at the bar. I'd really like to see you again."

And I'm just going to assume you don't use elipses like that.

If you do.......No!.......Stop!......Bad!.......

Title	Why my flake rate is so high ?
Author	oiw09
Upvotes	4
Comments	9
Date	July 21, 2015 6:57 AM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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