It seems to me that even though Mystery is all about "you must do this + that to get = this outcome", the outcome you end up with is not the one that he says you should have.

For instance, the first three parts of the nine-step method is called the Attraction Phase. Yet I think David DeAngelo says it best: "Attraction is not a choice". I interpret this to mean not only can she help but to feel attraction, but you cannot make somebody attracted to you. It's either you have it or you don't. Yet Mystery, Style, and countless others are living proof of MM's effectiveness. Something isn't quite adding up.

So for the past few months, I've been wracking my brain with a serious question that stems from MM--how do I build attraction? I used to think this a sticking point, but now I am learning otherwise by reading seddit, field testing, and reading theory.

Instead of attraction being the goal during the Attraction Phase, it should be to get her attention one of three ways:

1) Physical Attraction. Either you have it or you don't. 2) Building Intrugue. Peacocking and passing shit tests. The more interesting you are, the more she will want to know about you. Checkmate. 3) Providing Intellecual Stimuation. Be a challenge with a CF frame and negging. Women simply respond to a light dose of douchey behavior because they don't like to be one-upped. But the funny is there to lighten the blow.

If you do one of these three things, you have her attention. Now you must hold it long enough to where she beigins investing emotional stock and wanting to find out more about you. Normally, MM advocates the use of DHV routines, but I don't. It only serves to distract the whole set and it comes off as too theatrical unless you are super congruent with the material.

The next step that MM doesn't emphasize enough of is active disinterest. If she gets the idea that you are giving her too much attention, then her bitch shield will melt your fucking face off. There are a number of great ways to do this:

1) Tactical withdrawl. Physical abscence will cool off some of the tension, but don't overuse it. 2) Engage the whole set, but don't engage in distraction, which is only a smokescreen. Someone will see through the smoke after a while and know you're just blowing smoke up their ass. 3) Glance at your phone from time to time 4) Negging, but be careful not to overindulge. 5) Easy on the kino

While you hold her attention, the IOI's will pour and she will begin to qualify herself to you. Then you must isolate.

Here's the next dilemma. MM preaches comfort-building in the next three steps. However, if that is all you are doing, she will think you are too safe and you end up friendzoned. What's the solution? Build connection. Discuss her passions and interests. Shut up and listen. Then put yourself in a position of vulnerability and allow her to do the same in return. Follow up with heavier kino to pique romantic interest. The idea is to make her feel like she has known you for years in the actual timeframe of a couple hours.

IMHO, now is a good time to use Mystery's cold-reading DHV tactics. If you tell her something about herself that she did not previously disclose, then you are building a connection, but developing tension. You're letting her know that you can't be played, like she probably has done to many many men before.

The good news is a lot of this doesn't take very long, so you can #close if the situation does not permit further connection building.

Any thoughts, Sedditors?