Why NOT escalating means taking the risk!

brianbria · 2017-08-23T14:20:31+00:00

I need a similar mindset for escalation please

If you don't escalate then you're just a woman's gay friend.

IntrovertSigma · 2017-08-23T14:17:22+00:00

You don't need a line. Sit close to her. When a silence develops in the conversation, lean in and kiss.

If she turns away, don't act flustered, apologise or comment on it. Just continue the conversation and try again in 10 minutes.

fromdario · 2017-08-23T20:09:57+00:00

Escalation ladder....

You will have your own method, variety and these will come at different times but on the date...

Hug when you meet her
Walking together, grab her and lead her by the hand
Arm around the waist.
get her comfortable with your touch is the point, see how she responds and reciprocates
Increase intimate proximity to her, whisper in her ear, caress her neck.

*If she is comfortable with being so close to you, she will be comfortable with you kissing her.

The kiss... when you are already in a comfortable/natural position for a kiss; i.e. Closely side by side, If there is a pause and it feels right, I like to slowly turn their head towards mine with my hand, look her in the eyes and go for it.. Standing facing each other, i.e. on the street, I like to hold both her hands, then gentle pull her towards me, this shows I am clearly not going for a friendly hug, as our hands are by our sides and during that I will give an inviting look. Key is casual, comfortable, natural.

From there, you continue to escalate. The key is ABC, always be closing. Always be pushing the interaction forward. Look at them like little rewards/challenges, with the final one being sex. You get stopped or get a bad vibe, you stop re-evaluate then retry it in a different way. Imagine being stuck on a level in a video game.

In terms of a mantra or idea.... I have friends that brag about getting a girls number or going on a date. Who gives a fuck if you didn't close, seriously; i.e. girl gave you her number to get you to go away; she went on a date with you because she wanted free drinks and was bored. I know girls who have a guy they go to the gym with, a guy who pays their car payment, a guy who takes them to dinner, etc... They also have a guy who fucks them, be that guy.

I look at it like a harsh binary system, I either closed or I failed.

Makakka2002 · 2017-08-23T15:56:40+00:00

My model: 1st venue bright, sit opposite build comfort. Then after 20 minutes (one drink) venue change dark with couches (cocktail bar). Escalate verbally and check for rings and necklaces with touching then touch occasionaly then go for kiss close at leat two times and if they fail be nonractive keep touching and kiss close at the end. Then follow-up date few days later to get laid.

DavidGolani11 · 2017-08-23T21:19:57+00:00

Quit worrying about escalation so much. There are no magic touch points on a woman. Alphas know about escalation because it comes natural to them, they're not thinking about what to brush against or what to rub. They're busy forming a real connection to her, an emotional bond.

The brain is the most powerful weapon, use it. Structured pickup just makes you into a dating robot, predictable and boring. The reason you are doing poorly on dates is you are rambling through your mind on what to do next or what technique to use. A girl is not a safe or combination lock, and all this stuff does is make her think you're creepy because you're having long pauses running through mental notes.

Quit pressuring yourself to get laid, how about getting to know her? Its not a race nobody gives a shit about how many pussies you have slain.

savior100 · 2017-08-24T01:42:14+00:00

I mean they are on a date with YOU. They are at least some what attracted to you, amirite? You are both attracted to each other, make some moves on her player:)

Title	Why NOT escalating means taking the risk!
Author	mrsnowman26
Upvotes	23
Comments	18
Date	August 23, 2017 2:14 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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