Why Women Don't Approach

megamorphg · 2014-07-22T15:26:18+00:00

Thanks, I love reading rationale like this, totally killed my AA just reading and made sense of many times in past women seem so hot to be approached.

Just one question, what to do about OUR double standard? I love to meet new people and get closer but whats up with that double standard where a guy pays for everything? If a guy approaches, does all the leading conversationally, and takes responsibility for the sexual things that could happen... why is it on a date women are still expected to be paid for just for her company? We are both on a date having fun getting to know each other, I dont want to have the frame that i should pay just for her good company! Maybe its false underlying belief on my part hoping I can hear others way of thinking.

Cagg · 2014-07-22T18:22:29+00:00

Mini FR on this topic: I've noticed girls will open by talking to a friend loud enough for you to hear the conversation. It happened last weekend at the bar. Some girl made a comment about all the "cute indie boys in this bar" meanwhile I'm standing 2 feet from her fitting that exact description like "que¿" so i gave her eyes and a smile. She then gave me shit for "listening to her conversation" to which I replied "oh, well Its hard when you're talking about me so close." She messed with my beard and said "well that is true you are pretty cute with your hat and scruff". If that wasn't a girl opening a set I don't know what is.

slurmfactory · 2014-07-22T18:12:32+00:00

god damn it - this weekend i went to the beach with my friends, ended up at a bar with a ton of GORGEOUS women. I had smoked weed for the first time in a few months, was hungover, on no sleep and high. I had a freakout in my head and while my friends were all dancing and having fun I posted up against the wall and got more and more pissed off and introverted. So I see this banging hot blonde and her little brunette friend come over and start talking to my friend, and then he slaps me on the back and goes "hey this is slurmfactory" and introduces me to the little brunette. I shake her hand and WALK away. Just straight up bolted. 10 min later he comes up to me and goes "dude wtf is wrong with you??? the blonde girl tapped me on the shoulder, said "your friend is hot and my friend has a crush on him can you introduce them" then he introduces us and I ran away. Still mad at myself for that... She came back around twice and was looking at me but I was so introverted and moody bc of lack of sleep/highness/hungoverness I avoided eye contact, and even heard her say "HE WONT EVEN LOOK AT ME" damn no wonder girls are scared to approach..

Another girl "approached" me later. I was still posted up being super moody and she says some stupid joke about the glowstick on the ground and how it had pee on it, asked me if I peed on it, I smiled and said no, she said "you look like carrot top" (im gingerish with longer hair) I give her a look like wtf she goes "its not a bad thing" and then I just ignored her. hah

The next night I got my shit together, went to the same bar, and decided (after reading that autistic kid's post the other day) to pick the girls I am most attracted to to approach. I find a hot ass blonde and her hot brunette friend, I walk over and chat them up. 10 minutes later the blonde goes "so are you here alone?" and i say no these are all my friends, and point out the group Im with. I see my very good-looking friend looking at me trying to get in on the conversation.

I introduce them, turns out they matched on tinder, 10 minutes later theyre making out and he sleeps with her.

DAMN I fucked up my game that weekend. Oh well live and learn............................................................

TLDR- first night a girl approached me at a bar I was so anxious and in my own head I ran off. Second night I got my game back and my good looking friend got the girl I wanted and I got too drunk and passed out. Fuck no more beach trips planned this summer :/ </3

Title	Why Women Don't Approach
Author	phaedrusbrowne
Upvotes	56
Comments	15
Date	July 22, 2014 2:14 PM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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