What tenets of feminism do you disagree with and why?

Wow thats going to be a long post.I do not disagree with all of it I just think a lot of things are off the mark. I have troubles with some of the mindsets which are borrowed from or analagous to Marxism or Christian religions.

Privilege:

This is discovered by looking statistically at social groups and you come to the conclusion that some do worse than others, systemantically.But no one knows EXACTLY how this works.Yes there are studies that illuminate specific behaviours mindsets and so on that help to make this happen but it is very complex interplay. The problem is, if you imagine the disadvantage as a sort of grid, feminists are asking people to reify (recognise as real, solid) their 'privilge' in the grid. But a lot of whatever happens is subconscious and a lot of things you may do, do not impact other people in that way.Its kind of like ' The proletariat did not exist until marx invented them'...the privilege discussion attempts, in my view, to get people to socially fantasise something concrete but there is no reliable way to be sure that what we are doing to these 'privileged people' is actually fair.

Agency:

I have trouble with this one because of the underlying assumption.The underlying assumption is that being agentive is associated with power and being objectified is associated with powerlessness.But this is a value sytem derived from Patriarchy itself, problem number one, and secondly, we can find plenty of examples of people being non-agentive (Bill gates Male intern making coffee for him, a celebrity being tended to be his retinue) where the power lies squarely with the non-agentive part of the dyad.

Androcentrism

This one I basically agree with. Our society has had a 'boys club' for a very long time. Internalized sexism In many social justice philosophies it appears that those most oppressed are complicit in their own oppression.This is distasteful so it is explained away via 'false consciousness' or 'internalised misogyny'. The problem is, it is just too open to abuse.A woman can always do something misogynistic and chalk it up to internalised misogyny. So at times this strikes me as externalised blame rather than internalised misogyny. And just like in traditional patriarchal culture, where men have most power, most responsibility and most blame, this merely repeats the same pattern. Also, often those opposing it use an 'essentialist argument' claiming some mythic femininity free of male influence.

Intersectionality Same problems as privilege.Also it turns debates into oppression top-trumps and shuts men down completely.

Lived experience

I see a value in being open to hear it, but it should not be used to reject other perspectives.Hitlers lived experience was that the Jews were evil and ruined Germany.

Male gaze:

This has been hotly contested by feminists themselves.It is based on Lacanian psychoanalysis, which is ..I wont say it is thoroughly discredited because it is so pseudoscientific that it is impossible to refute or prove. There are lots of reasons to think Lacan was a charlatan.In any event, it makes common sense that men dominating cameras and literature would lead to a bias, but reifying it into an almost palpable evil is misguided, in my view.

Objectification:

I am pretty much wholeheardtedly in opposition to this when it comes to race and other issues.It gets a bit complicated with the genders though.Objectification is just an inherent part of sexuality..I don't think demonising it is the way forward. Men are more sexually insecure for lots of reasons I wont get into here, so it makes sense they would want to have fantasies that 'cannot reject them' are 'always available' and 'cannot escape' and so on.

Othering:

A complicated issue. Othering may be objectifying but its opposite can also be tyrannical and traumatic.Zizek is good on this issue.

Rape culture:

There is a bit of a sleight-of-hand with this topic. The term indicates a widespread acceptance of rape but when you push feminists its about practices and attitudes that make it difficult to report rape, to avoid victim-blaming and make it difficult to get convictions.