Working on myself

rq7025 · 2025-12-19T04:06:33+00:00

Nothing wrong with working on yourself. I had some people be weird about me starting to lift and stuff years ago, but now that I've been lifting, dressing better, etc for years people don't question it. You should improve your income, be happy, be more confident, improve your hygiene, vibe, energy, etc for YOURSELF, not for women. You are enough for women as you are now. Do all of that because you want a better life and be a better you. It just so happens that stuff helps with women.

ImpossibleWaiting · 2025-12-19T08:27:22+00:00

That's the right way to do it, but you sound extremely hurt and bitter, which is not the right way to be. Don't victimize yourself. That's the first step to becoming happy. Take responsibility and be in a good mood.

Thorn_Tail · 2025-12-19T10:49:03+00:00

Keep this mindset and you can move mountains!

How is it going so far ?

Broad-Cranberry-9050 · 2025-12-19T22:55:59+00:00

As someone who had social anxiety and later some depression around this, i totally get how you feel. As a kid i worked at my dad's business for most my childhood so i never developed my social skills like i should've in HS an dit wasnt until colelge that i developed them.

I will say this keep putting in the work my man but make sure you are doing it for yourself not for the result. WHen i struggled it was because i was dependent on the result. If i went out and didnt get a number i was pissed. When i talked ot girls i tried really hard to get them to like me, etc. Once i stopped doing that and just going out for my own enjoyment, learning how to socialize with people, not caring if i got her number or not and not caring if she liked me or not, i did better. Women always get treated like glass vases so when a guy doenst do that they lvoe it. Im not saying be an AH, im saying just be your genuine self. For me im witty and funny, so i started being witty and funny with women. Say small jokes to make the laugh even if it was at their expense. Liek i called a girl a nepo baby a few weeks back, she was really pretty and years ago id never would've said that but she laughed and we had a cute back and forth.

My suggestion to improve your social skills is to practice on everyone. Gusy and girls. Because if you can't talk to ag uy you just met you wont be able to talk to a women you just met. For me id go to networking events and meetup events (i used the meetup app a lot). Id get there and just approach people and say hi. I had no intention or anything other than getting comfortable talking to people. FInd some common ground. I started off with guys because with them it's easy because most like sports so if met a guy and he was from SF id just talk about barry bonds and the giants. Or how BS the A's left oakland. Plus with women, they always have their walls up so if women see that im talking to men and approach ing men they are more likely to put their walls down because they see that im there to actually make friends. So when i approach them they are less likely to think "oh another guy trying to fuck me".

Anytime i had a fun conversation with someone id exchange numbers. Then on the weekends id send a text to everyone like "trying to go out whose down?". It's about creating opportunities. Because even meeting a guy could lead to you meeting a bunch of women. If you have female friends it's nice too because that means you are ogood around women and probably not a creep.

Title	Working on myself
Author	Life_Peace_7520
Upvotes	1
Comments	18
Date	December 19, 2025 2:17 AM UTC (7 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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