How do you glow up

SurpassingSolomon · 2025-12-27T16:55:06+00:00

I don't know how old you are but as a 30-something man, sometimes I look at men my age and realise how shit they look on average. Skinny fat, bad haircuts, slovenly dress sense. At a bare minimum all you have to do is look less shit than the average man your age.

lavenderthiefs · 2025-12-27T14:59:42+00:00

Lift weights, fix posture, and get a decent haircut.

norwegiandoggo · 2025-12-27T19:05:48+00:00

Social anxiety & shyness: Be more social.

Low confidence: You mean confidence or low self esteem? Because they're often confused. Confidence is about skills. So to develop confidence, you need to develop skills. You develop skills by practicing. The answer is largely: be more social (as I assume socially is where you lack confidence).

Porn addiction: Porn addiction is usually self-medicating because you're lonely and alone. So you seek to porn to feel better. What is the cure for this? Be more social.

Nice guy: Being a "nice guy" comes from being insecure about your worth and putting women on a pedestal above you. This is usually best addressed by changing your mindset. Think therapy, self-help books etc.

Nabbzi · 2025-12-28T15:35:56+00:00

Getting lean and fit is the best life hack ever

Broad-Cranberry-9050 · 2025-12-31T03:05:45+00:00

As a tech guy who always dressed comfortably, I got a trusted female to dress me up. Im not talking about your mom or aunt, or much older sister. Im talking about osmeone your age, who hasnt been otu the game too long. That;'s what i got and i honestly got a huge glow up pretty quickly.

You dont have to break the bank, i got my shit from amazon and the gap. Listen to what girls even the ones you dont wanna fuck say about your looks. I was alwasy told to grow my beard and never did, when i finally let go and did, i did better. I got nice strong scented cologne. Got bomber jackets for going out. Bought nice dark colored jeans, etc.

Just know this shit wont have girls at your feet, but it helps to make their first impression of you a more pleasent and open to the idea that you may be someone to fuck. It's all about social skills int he end of the day.

For me i just practiced talking to everybody guys or girls. If you can talk to a guy you just met then you can ease into women you just met. The idea is getting used to the idea of going up to someone and expecting nothing but a pleasent conversation. The idea that are two are sharing a space and you dont care if you never see this person again.

ZavtheShroud · 2025-12-27T18:01:40+00:00

I hate myself when im not being a 'nice' guy (ergo helping when asked, polite, forthcoming). Every time i try banter and other not-nice stuff i feel bad about myself. Didn't show the middlefinger once my entire life yet. But then again im autistic.

Zealousideal-Sir3744 · 2025-12-27T23:32:22+00:00

Hair care, skincare, light workouts, better diet. That's like 80% of it.

FriendlyWrenChilling · 2025-12-28T04:29:52+00:00

Improve your mental health. Easiest and simplest way.

LunarNinja_ · 2025-12-27T14:29:54+00:00

You live with social anxiety. You can't overcome it. It is literally a fear. If you get familiar with things that scare you, you'll be scared much less. That's the only solution. Exposure therapy.

How do you define confidence though? Do you expect to always act cool no matter the circumstance? That is not possible. Tell any confident person that they have to make a speech in front of 100 people with no preparation and they'll be scared.

Committed action comes first, confidence comes second. Act on what you want, get good at it and confidence will come with it.

The only reason you might not have confidence while talking to people/women, and your friend does is because of how you two grew up. He might've been an athlete or worked with people. Maybe he's handsome and women gave him positive reactions in the past that reaffirmed his belief in himself.

Porn addiction can be beaten either through sheer will and determination, including a specific set of boundaries that you firmly promise not to break first, or (better option) by having someone hold you accountable, i.e. sharing your issue with someone.

Being a nice guy is a reflection of your inner belief that you're not good enough or that you need to please people for them to like you.

You can read Robert Glover's book for more insights. It is a popular book, but it is not untrue.

Title	How do you glow up
Author	Life_Peace_7520
Upvotes	12
Comments	22
Date	December 27, 2025 11:48 AM UTC (7 months ago)
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