I'm in my late 20s and have been in about 5 brief relationships. In high school, I was that bullied kid who wasn't cool with the guys and unattractive to the girls. Over time, this developed into a fierce, aggressive competition against men and disgust for women.
Years later, the way I think about women has been warped - to the point that I've convinced myself some beliefs like:
- Women don't want to date an Asian man, only attractive white guys.
- I need to earn a higher income to impress women.
- Women only want the cream of the crop of men, which I am not
- Women are eager to cheat to find a stronger, better man
After years of having a crappy, close to nonexistent dating life (no wonder), I realize it's my own beliefs that I've solidified over years and years of depression and bullying.
How can I end these negative beliefs and see dating in a different, productive, perspective?
TL;DR: OP realizes he needs to change his view on women if he ever wants to have a dating life, but doesn't know how to change perspective.
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