YOU TALKED TO HER. NOW WHAT?

If you enjoyed my first post, "JUST F*CKING TALK TO HER," this is the next level—the seduction part. You got your foot in the door, but now you need to know how to keep her engaged and make her want more.

Before we dive in, we need to go back to the basics. Some of this should have been part of the first process, but this section is where it really matters.

FIRST THINGS FIRST… TAKE CARE OF YOUR DAMN LOOKS.

Way too many guys think they can look like a fat tub of lard and still pull women the same way a guy who actually takes care of himself does. Wrong.

There is NO excuse for not taking care of your body, your hygiene, and your style. Looks are one of the MOST important parts of getting through the door.

  • Go to the gym.
  • Lose the extra weight.
  • Fix your diet.
  • Take care of your skin, hair, and hygiene.
  • Wear clothes that actually fit.

Put in the work, because most men won’t. That alone puts you ahead of 90% of guys out here.

I’ll break down how to optimize your looks 100% in a separate post, but for now, let’s move on.

SO YOU TALKED TO HER. NOW WHAT?

Whether you applied my tips from the first post or had your own way of approaching her, the next thing you need to learn is seduction.

What is seduction?

It’s a form of manipulation.

And if you’re someone who doesn’t believe in manipulation, bad news—you’re gonna be single forever.

Every time you’ve convinced someone to do something, you manipulated the situation in some way.

  • You made them feel something.
  • You acted a certain way to get a certain result.
  • You exploited a vulnerability, even if it was small.

Seduction is the same thing. You are guiding the interaction so that she wants more of you.

STEP ONE: PUT YOURSELF IN HER SHOES.

Imagine you’re her.

You’re talking to you.

  • Do you sound interesting?
  • Are you talking about the right things?
  • Are you making her feel something, or are you just background noise?

Most men fail here because they do one of two things:

  1. They talk too much about themselves.
  2. They bore the f*ck out of her.

Men think they have to "sell themselves" to women like they’re on a billboard. Wrong.

Women don’t care about you at first.

What they care about is how you make them feel.

So how do we do this?
It’s actually rocket science, bro…

JUST LET HER TALK ABOUT HERSELF.

It’s that simple.

HOW TO MAKE HER TALK (AND KEEP HER TALKING)

The key to this? SMALL TALK.

Yeah, I know. Most guys hate small talk.

But small talk is just the waiting room. Once you pass it, you get into the grand suite.

Here’s how to start small, and turn it into something meaningful.

EXAMPLE CONVERSATION: HOW TO MAKE HER TALK

Let’s say you’re talking to a woman in Target.

  • You approached her.
  • She reciprocated well.
  • Now you’re chopping it up in the middle of the aisle.

You:

"So are you from here or just in town blowing money at Target like the rest of us?"

Her:

"Haha, no, I’m from here. I grew up in this area."

You:

"Oh yeah? What school did you go to? Let me guess—[Insert Local High School]?"

Her:

"Omg yes, how did you know?" (Or she might say, "No, I went to [different school]"—either way, the convo keeps going.)

You:

"I just had a feeling. So did you like it there?"

Her:

"Omg NO. I hated it. So many fake people."

Now comes the easiest trick ever: PARROTING.

You repeat her last key phrase back to her like a question.

You:

"Fake people??"

Her:

"YES. Omg, people were always acting different, trying to be something they weren’t. It was so annoying."

Now she’s doing the talking. You barely said anything.

Rinse and repeat this method if it feels right.

WHY THIS WORKS

  • She’s talking about something she actually cares about.
  • She’s associating that good feeling of “being heard” with YOU.
  • She feels engaged, because YOU are engaged.

Bonus Tip: ENERGY MATTERS.

Even if she’s talking about the most boring sh*t ever, you need to sound interested.

If you act like you don’t care, she’ll stop talking. If she stops talking, you lose the interaction.

THE MANIPULATIVE PART OF THIS:

You need her to talk as much as possible because you’re storing everything in your mental database.

  • The things she cares about? Noted.
  • The things that piss her off? Noted.
  • The things she’s passionate about? Noted.

Why?
Because you will use this later.

You will carefully cherry-pick your next moves based on the information she’s already given you.

WHAT COMES NEXT?

If you made it this far, you already see how simple this really is.

  1. Make her talk about herself.
  2. Listen and store information.
  3. Make her associate good emotions with you.

But that’s just the beginning.

Now you need to learn:

  • How to flirt.
  • How to escalate physically.
  • How to make her chase YOU instead.

If you want me to break that down, let me know.

I appreciate all the feedback on "JUST F*CKING TALK TO HER." I want all of you to get what you want out of this life.

Part 2 coming soon.